I don't think my parents are ever going to stop being abusive...?

Awww monstrar- I'm so sorry you've been going through such a tough time. You're such a sweet girl and you deserve to be happy :) But I can relate to you- to an extent. I was depressed for years and my parents are abusive also and they're not the most supportive people either. So I'll try to help you as best I can :)

First of all, I would try to tell your parents how you feel. It may or may not work, but that depends on your parents, so I can't really say. It's very hard for people to completely change, so they might need to be reminded of their negative actions every once in a while.

If that doesn't work, try not to let them get you down. Spend time with friends and other people you love and trust. You might not be able to see it now, but you won't be in this hard situation forever- so keep your chin up and make the most of what you have.

I know it's hard when the only people you're supposed to be able to always turn to and depend on aren't there for you. It sucks. And it's even harder to realize that some people never change. But you're strong, montrar, I know you'll be okay :)

Sounds like abuse to me. I am so sorry you are experiencing this. You don't deserve to be treated badly. Abusive parents can go to church and read Bibles because all people make mistakes and have flaws, some more serious than others. Do you have a guidance counselor at your school you could trust? You could talk to him or her about these problems. On the other hand, if you are 16, you don't supposedly have too many more years of this, and your parents may or may not change later on. I wanted to be emancipated from my parents at your age because they were abusive, but it didn't work out because my parents had powerful connections, so I just stuck it out and now that I am an adult, our relationship is somewhat better. They know they can't hit me b/c I'd call the police. Plus, I have my own life now, which makes it better. They have also told me they are sorry for some of the worse things they did in anger. This may or may not eventually happen with your parents. But if at any time you feel like your personal safety is at risk, get help immediately. Don't feel guilty. If you are a Christian like your parents, know that that commandment about parents doesn't apply when they are abusing you. God wouldn't want you to be miserable and be getting hurt physically and/or emotionally. I hope you are able to come to a good solution. Good luck.

always know at the end of the day that you have yourself. eventually you have to accept that certain people will never be there for you the way you need them to be. its unfair, especially because they are your parents and they are supposed to cherish you more than anyone. but unfotunately some people have children when they are not prepared to do so. Always remember that you are important, your life matters, and you can make it into whatever you want. you are going to die one day anyway, so do what you have to do to move out and start to try to be happy. talk to a therapist if necessary, im sure it will be helpful. go out there and make happy memories with the people that you grow to care about (friends, cousins, a boyfriend or girlfriend.) live life to the fullest because youre only hear a short while. dont let your parents emotional abuse dictate or control your life. you are better than that, you are more than that, you are valuable.

I completely understand. :/

I too wonder how I will deal in this house.

How long do you have left? A year? Two? That's a long time :'(

If you can't live with someone else [which you probably should], focus on stuff that doesn't involve your parents. Find a hobby. Train your pets. Spend more time outdoors and hanging out than at your house dealing with your folks. Invest more time in your friends instead of your family. Just keep thinking, that as long as you keep it up, the time will pass and you won't have to be subjected to them any longer.

I'm sorry. It sounds corny but maybe you could try writing a letter to your mom about how you feel. I remember when I was going through a tough time my dad wrote me a letter and it was the same thing he was always telling me, but it had more of impact when it was on paper. And I listened and we got along a lot better after that. If your family is making you suicidal though, then you shouldn't be in that environment. Do you have a relative you could stay with?

In my opinion, I think you should sit both of them down and talk to them. If you think you're on the verge of suicide, then tell them that. They've must have been really scared when you were in the hospital before, so they'll now try hard again.

Remind them of how things were the few weeks after the hospital and hopefully they'll change back to the way they were.

-Don't let your parents stop you from living the life you deserve(which is hint hint a good life). The best revenge is to live well and happily. Save up money to give yourself some freedom, study hard so you can get into the school you want, stay with the friends and family that loves and doesn't abuse you.

I'm sorry about it all. I hope it gets better for you.

*why the T.D's?

Aww, I'm sorry :[ My dad is both emotionally and physically abusive, so I understand how difficult it must be for you.

And just ignore the incompassionate and apparently blind brandon fellow.

I don't know how you should cope, to be honest. All I do is avoid my father.

you should go live with another family member like an aunt or grandparents and if you can't, stay with a friend for a while. no one should be emotionally or physically abusing you to the point where you want to kill yourself. please don't suffer in silence and take it, you have to tell someone you trust like a guidance counselor or teacher.

Good luck :)

i think if it's really that horrible as you say (which it probably is) then get emancipated..

Get a job before and save up some money to get a flat.

Or move in with and aunt uncle sister ect

Dogs are very healing. My parents were alcoholics and drug addicts, so I understand. I had an Aunt who tried to help for a while and a neighbor lady here and there until I got out of high school. Then people in the work force were there for me and helped me and were great mentors and role models for me. It is hard, but you need to have faith that God will get you through it. Since you know you can't talk to your parents, find someone else to talk to. I am going to send you my rant on narcissistic personality disorder, I think it will help you. Narcissistic personality disorder is 85% alcoholics and/or drug addicts, 15% they believe are children who were raised by alcoholics or drug addicts, or just simply put down by someone when they were small children. Someone hurt them when they were little and made them feel small, and that is why they do it to other people. They have to put others down in order to make themselves feel bigger. (Not that that is an excuse.) They think they are God like, Saints, with grand egos, I call them destroyers, they just destroy people. In their mind they are right and the world is all wrong, they don't have a problem, you do. They put others down because they are bullies, and cowards. They put others down because they have no self esteem. If they are putting you down, and pointing out your flaws, no one is noticing their flaws. In their mind they think it is their job to put others down, it is their duty. They are social, and the rest of the world is anti social, they are perfect and you are the one who is flawed. They cannot and do not take responsibility for their actions and behaviors, so they will never say they are sorry, because in their mind they have done no wrong, they have done nothing to be sorry for. They can go to therapy for years and have no change in their behavior or actions, because in their mind they are saints, and perfect, so they have nothing to change about themselves. I am not really sure if they even comprehend how they hurt other people. The best thing to do is to stay away from these people if possible. They cannot change and they will just bring you down. My in laws are this way, so I know how you feel. After 20 years of abuse they are now banned from my house. While they had the benefit of putting us down and hurting our feelings, they did pay a price. They are now retired and none of their children, their spouses, even their grand children, none of us want to be around them. They enjoyed abusing us all those years, and now they spend their holidays alone. They do pay a price. Hurting people, hurt people. One thing that I have learned to do is to stop playing the blame game. If my husband goes berserk on me, instead of saying "What did I just say? What did I just do to cause that?" I stop and take myself out of the situation. I realize that his outburst was not about me, but he had talked to his father that day, or his brother pooped on him and he is taking it out on me. So I stopped taking the blame and shame and guilt for his behavior. If I did something wrong, then fine it is my bust, but if it isn't about me, I stop taking on the poop that goes with the situation. You have to realize that when people are hurting, the "issue" is not the "real issue" You have to take yourself out of the picture and think "what is hurting this person today?" You learn this when you deal with customers, but it works in real life too. A customer can have a problem long before you meet them, and the slightest thing you say or do, causes an explosion. It isn't about eggs, it is about a man who's wife just died. It isn't about a parking spot, it is about a woman who's 4-year-old got killed by a drunk driver. It isn't about your boyfriend, your mothers dog just died. Hurting people, hurt people. So maybe a person staying at a hotel complains about the noise in the room, but maybe the real problem is that they got a speeding ticket, someone cut them off on the highway, or maybe they are not staying in the hotel for recreation, maybe they came in for a funeral and they are stressed about that. So the 'issue" of the noisy room, is not about a noisy room, but about the stress of a funeral. You have to stop and take yourself out of the situation, and stop playing the blame game, and stop taking on the hurt and pain and anger and guilt of others, it isn't fair to you.