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Bradley asked in Pregnancy & ParentingAdoption · 1 decade ago

A question regarding adoption and/or legal guardianship...?

My relationship with a single mother ended very civilly after two and a half years. During that time, her son and I became very close and speak at least monthly, two years after the breakup. He is now fourteen and lives with his mom in Tennessee; I live in Denver.

I am in no way trying to take him away from his mother but need to establish some sort of legal ties for several reasons. First (and most important), I am the closest male figure he has had in his life and want him to have a 'father' of sorts (his biological father has been out of the picture since his birth and has a family of his own).

My second major concern is his mother's failing health. She has MS and it is not responding well to treatment. In case of the unthinkable, I need to know that he will be taken care of the way his mother would like him to be. Her parents and the rest of their family have never agreed with some of her choices and have never accepted me as a part of his life. I fear that if her family becomes the primary care giver for him that I will be pushed away and that her wishes for his future will be disregarded.

I know a lawyer will be needed at some point but am gathering as much information as possible. I have not spoken with his mother yet but know from previous conversations that she will be relieved that I want to take this role in his life. At this point, it is almost ceremonial - he will be 18 soon, but a lot can happen in four years.

What is my best option for securing legal rights for the child to ensure that I will be a part of his life and that he will be cared for properly?

Update:

Everything will be done with his mother's consent. We have spoken of adoption in the past but have never started the legal process.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    With her consent you can take legal guardianship now. NOW is the time to get this done also. Otherwise you will have a difficult time getting anything done later on. Do it now.

  • 1 decade ago

    you can adopt the boy u will have to get the bio-dad to either give up his rights or if u can not locate him post it in a paper that u are seeking adoption if he does not come forward in 30 days a judge will sign off on his adoption and u will fill out some paper work and add ur name to the birth cert. and all will be good ..... we went through this with my daughter she never met her dad and when me an my now husband got together when she was 3 he bonded with her and when we got married 2 days later he adopted her .... all u pay is for the probate paper work and the new birth cert ii think we paid 50.00 at the most

  • 1 decade ago

    She needs a will stating who will get her child if she dies. You have no rights.

    People with MS can live long lives, albeit not the best of quality, but lives just the same. My friend is 68 and with the aid of meds and an electric wheelchair she gets along pretty good.

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    1 decade ago

    You don't have any rights and probably wont since you are just her ex. Without her consent you wont be able to get any legal rights. Random people cannot adopt others children.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you don't have any rights you can't do anything.

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