All recent brides out there: what are things you really wanted your bridesmaids to do for you?

Plan the shower and the bachelorette party!!! Those two things can be stressful on top of a wedding too. I asked my bridesmaids to go dress shopping with me too, and that was a lot of fun

For them to get along!

I was in tears for so much of the time since they made it clear to me that they didn't like each other.

I shouldn't have asked if they were getting along or not.

I wanted them to give me a great bridal shower and bachelorette party without me having to give them every little detail about what I wanted.

I wanted to be surprised and I really ended up planning it myself.

So in summary, try to take a load off the bride and have her plan one less thing and don't fight with the other bridesmaids, just roll with the punches, and be uber supportive.

Those are all the things I wish my girls did for me.

Honestly, I wish my bridesmaids would've gotten along and I wish all of them were able to attend my bachelorette party. One of my bridesmaids left the party early because she got mad at another bridesmaid. By the morning (we all spent the night in a hotel room), I was crying because my bridesmaids were making me so upset. It was not good.

I would have liked my bridesmaids to make themselves available to me to get them together to all meet prior to the bridal shower. My 2 FSIL's - who I asked to be bridesmaids - were fighting and refused to come out to the lunch I wanted to have so they could meet my cousin (MOH) and sister (other bridesmaid).

I would have liked my bridesmaids to respect mine & my fiance's vision of the wedding. We wanted our bridesmaids in floor length dresses - - one of my FSIL's pitched a fit because she thinks she is too short to wear floor length dresses and I had to get the groom to step in and tell his sister that she'll wear what we ask her to or she doesn't have to be in the wedding. And I let the girls choose their own style of dress, fiance & I just agreed on the color, fabric & length and let the girls pick a dress style they were comfy with.

I also had only 1 real "request" with their accessories for the wedding which was purely 100% my own personal preference - - please keep in mind that I bought their dresses and jewelry and (of course) the flowers, too. I asked the girls to please wear a black shoe of their choice that they already have and my only request was to not wear a sandal or open-toe style shoe. This way, they could be comfy in flats or heels that they like. Wouldn't you know it -- one of the FSIL's had to wear the open toe shoes!