How do to deal with people being insensitive about miscarriage?

I have had only 1 pregnancy and that pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage and I had to have a D and C also. I have not since gotten pregnant again; that was almost 4 years ago. I am still not really over it, and I mourned the loss of my baby for almost a year. My husband got tired of it and all but my mother was pretty insensitive about it. My husband was more understanding in the beginning, because he was upset too, but when I didn't get on with my life he got aggitated.

When I was in that situation where I would cry about it alot, I would talk about it; however, people got tired of it. So, I would log in on Babycenter.com and post messages on the message boards for miscarriage, because the people there are going through the same things.

There is really nothing you can do but find ways to cope, because some people do not understand the emotional and physical trama and pain associated with miscarriages.

Being active about finding out why you are miscarrying can help keep you busy and makes you feel like you are doing something about it. I know that makes me feel better to feel like I'm trying to do something to change the outcome of another pregnancy; however, I have other issues where I cannot even get pregnant right now.

As long as you can get pregnant, most of the time, the dr can figure out a way to prevent a miscarriage; especially if it is a hormonal issue. My husband's mother had 5 miscarriages before they found out that she had hormonal issues; that was in the 70's. So we have come a long way!

I am sorry for the loss of your 3 little angels. I hope that you are able to feel better soon; you will never forget or get over the losses of your babies; however, the pain hurts less over time.

People are assholes, sad truth.

You can't stop anyone from being insensitive and the only way to deal with it, is to really just avoid those people.

I feel for you, I recently lost a baby as well. It isn't easy, but it will get better. You're a tough woman clearly, you've already been through so much and you're still hanging on.

Screw everyone else, stick to the people who make you feel loved and at least try to understand.

Sorry.. but there's no other way to deal with it.

NOT ALOT YOU CAN DO SOMETIMES - PEOPLE CAN BE INSENSITIVE - SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BATTLE ON

?? ANOTHER COUNSELOR MAY BE WARRANTED

MY MOTHER IN LAW TOLD ME WHEN I MISCARRIED AT 9 WEEKS THAT IT WAS FOR THE BETTER AS I HAD ENOUGH MANAGING THE 3 CHILDREN I HAD

THAT WAS VERY INSENSITIVE

Stop being a crybaby. Everyone's life is hard at some point. Passing it is what builds resilience for the next fight.