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How to get a straight girl to get with my lesbian self?

So i meet this girl, a fellow co worker. She really nice and I feel comfortable around her and she funny. I don't really know what is going on with her but she's has a boyfriend and has been in a relationship with him for 3 years. Although, I considered myself a very respectful person, I can't stop talking to her while at work. Something drags me to get and I'm attracted to her and i don't know exactly why. There's something different with her and I can't put my finger on it.

She feed me and steals cake for me... a lot actually. I just thought she was a nice person, but i never met someone that nice specially where I work at... So anyway, I gave her a hug for Christmas day and OMG it was awesome. I just didn't want to let her go. So I gave her another one for New Year's since I won't see her anymore until next year. This time it was really nice and it wasn't weird for me, you know it felt good and right... I even got butterflies in my tummy... well point blank I didn't want to let her go. But I did (against my will) I don't want to scare her away, you know.

She's told a friend of me, that I've been weird and she thinks I'm hitting on her. Which I don't think I am bc I suck at flirting. At least I don't know where she's getting from... Idk I just nice bc she's nice.

But for some reason she thinks I like her which its partly true but I didn't show it. I really want to go easy on her and see what happens... I don't know how to go about it and not scare her away... HELP!

i just want to slowly get in her head...

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    You got in her head and it sounds like you won't be there for long - especially if her boyfriend sees what you're up to. I don't think you are going to get anywhere with her anyway, and besides, she is not single. Leave her alone. Have some respect because she has someone. It doesn't matter what you feel about her. Somewhere out there is someone who loves her and is waiting for her to come home. Go find yourself someone single and is interested in women. No offense to you, but I hate people who make passes at people who are TAKEN. I've had people stalk my wife and it's annoying when I am in her life, treating her great, and some idiot is fixated on my wife. Thank god my wife tells people she's taken. And that woman at your job is also taken, so back off, stop thinking of yourself and go find someone you can have. Plotting to get into someone's head is creepy and you give lesbians a bad rep.

    Wait until she is single and looking OR go find someone who already is.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    She already has a boyfriend. It's best to just move on, and find somebody else. You need someone who is not already attached. As bad as it may seem, you need to get over this girl by putting some distance between you two. If it's too hurtful to have a friendship/ unrequited love

    situation going on, let her go completely.

    This girl is straight, she most likely just wants to be your friend. Don't take advantage of the friendship and turn simple hugs and nice gestures to be flirtation. Often straight girls show affection to their female friends and it can be often read as mixed signals, or her being attracted to you. Every bat of the eye, touch, or hug is going to mean something different to her than does for you. She might not even be bisexual . Chasing a strictly hetero girl is a pipe dream, slim to no chance.

    If you pursue this, you might get hurt in the end. At least wait until she is out of the relationship to try to be with her. k, good luck!

    Source(s): Experience and a long list of heartaches....sigh.
  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    I believe that a woman or girl would be willing to do "the unthinkable" for the man she loves to show him how deep her love actually is. Plus women feel security with other women (they do go threw identical hormonal changes every month and understand each other moreover then men). If a woman engaged in a 3some with another woman she would actually be very specific on the type of woman she chooses. It's really not that simple as we men think it is. SOME woman or girl don't find some guys attractive when there naked because some of us men allow stress to affect our bodies. Also SOME women prefer men "naked" but from a different culture. How often do women were the same shirt pants and shoes every day? As we boys grow into men we learn from our mistakes with women. A girl has no excuses wanting to see another girls body honestly. They have way more chances to see women naked then we men do. A girl can be a bartender in a gentlemans club with women naked all around her and she still won't feel aroused. When you get older you'll get wiser....

  • 1 decade ago

    I agree with the first answer. She seems a little or a lot hetero. Btw ur question sounds funny :). lol. It made me laugh but n e ways um this will happen a lot. There will be girls that a hetero and u can;t have them. U gotta give it up. I think ur gay u coud be bi but it's like when a man tries to get into a girl's head when he knows she likes girls. Just let them be the way they are and settle with being their friend no matter how hard it is. If u need more help just email me. I'll be glad to help.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    straight girl lesbian

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I don't mean to be rude, but What the F**K?!

    1. She is in a commited 3 year heterosexual relationship

    2. She has said you are weird and she suspects you are flirting....she obviously does not like it

    3. There are plenty of nice, gay girls that i'm sure would love your attention

    4. Said girl is not one of them ^

    If you consider yourself a respectful person, it would be in your best interest to let it go

  • 1 decade ago

    No se reponderte a es pregunta, yo soy heterosexual.

    Mi consejo es que hagas la pregunta en castellano a todo e foro, puede que alguien se identifique con tus gustos y llegueis a un acuerdo, ya que hay muchos que están saliendo del armario...habían perdido la llave, pero se la han devuelto

    Felices fiestas

  • 1 decade ago

    Of course she will know you're hitting on her, it's obvious from what you described and if you think she is naive then you're very much mistaken. You may not communicate your feelings in words but your body is doing that for you and she is picking on it...

    You can't really force an issue and that is the lesson here. You really need more experience in communicating your feelings, your desires, fliting or otherwise. No matter what you try and how hard you try, you cannot stop anyone from getting their 'gut feelings' So rather than leave room for doubt or disapointment, try to communicate and open up. You will get better results and of course enjoy an honest relationship with future friends / partners.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can't. Give up and move on. She's straight; she can't help it. She was born that way and nothing you or anyone else can do will ever change that. You are going to have to accept her for who she is.

  • 1 decade ago

    I agree with the first answer

    Source(s): 2 points
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