I have been having a relationship/friendship with a man since May 2009. A few months ago, I was very ill and?

when he called to say he was coming over, I said I was sick and really didn't want to get him sick, he insisted on coming over, saying he had already been exposed anyways. After a number of hours, I was ready to climbed into bed and even though I gave him many hints ("gee, I am so sick, all I want to do is go to bed" "I am SO TIRED" and then finally "Enough! Its time to call it a night"). The night ended badly with him leaving pouting. He claimed to have been embarrassed and unwanted (DUH!) and said he saw a side of me he wished he had never seen (never explained what he meant). I ended up finding out I had congestive heart failure in addition to having had a cold/flu. Since he pouted like that, and I was not feeling well, I did not bother calling him for some time. When we finally did talk, he was very sorry he didn't know how sick I was (I don't think that should have had anything to do with his apology). We seem to be having more problems lately, he gets his feelings hurt, instead of talking about it, he pouts and says I should know how badly I have hurt his feelings and so on, even though he does not communicate this directly. Frankly, I find his pouting more disturbing than his lack of understanding of what the situation really is (ie I told him not to come over, I was sick, he insisted and pushed his way here anyways). He has always been helpful around the house, fixing things, hanging lights, doing light plumbing and so on, until about 3 weeks ago. At which time, he has taken to sitting at my dining room table reading my paper, books and magazines while I make dinner, do laundry and so on. No big deal, but I have come down with another cold and when I mentioned that an upstairs sink was leaking (one he had fixed previously) he told me to call a plumber. I was dumbfounded! He has never talked to me like that and I felt very uncomfortable with him after that. When he finally left that evening, even after telling him I was sick, tired and wanted to go to bed, I simply said it was time to call it a night and he left strained and pouting. I emailed a short time later asking why he talked to me like that and if he had something he wanted to get off his chest, surely it was better for us to get that out into the open and discuss it, rather than ruin a good friendship/relationship. He claimed he was simply being flip and that it must be me who had the issues and something to get off my chest. Since being sick, I figured I would leave this alone till I felt better, at which point he emailed me saying he hadn't heard back from me within 24 hours and questioning why I waited till he left to say something. I did say something, and just so you all know, I fixed the sink myself in 20 minutes. When I came downstairs (he was still sitting at the dining room table) he asked what I did, I said I called myself a plumber and fixed it myself. He sat there another 4 hours while I did laundry and blew my nose and coughed. I fixed NO LUNCH and NO DINNER as I was not hungry and was at a loss for words as what to say, if anything to him. Now I want to end this relationship and be done with this emotional blackmailer and layabout and am weighing the pros and cons. I think this is a fatal flaw he has and it won't get better. My Mom thinks I should tell him what I don't like about what he is doing. I am disturbed that when I was sick originally, he knew it and chose to come over anyways, despite me having asked him not to, and then when I had to just tell him it was time to go, he pouted and refused to talk to me, at which time I let him be until I was feeling better. We are not kids, I am 52 and he is 56, hardly children, although you might not know it by how we are acting. The reason I was originally attracted to him to begin with was he was terribly sweet, helpful and made himself useful around the house. I reciprocated by feeding him nightly, sewing his clothes and doing things for him also. Now he just sits around waiting for the dinner bell, talking this way to me and pouting when he thinks he has been slighted in some way. I have not been able to have a decent conversation with him over these things because of how he reacts, even though I try and speak from the heart, he accuses me of being mean, spiteful, humiliating him and embarrassing him. I say I can't think of a nice way to tell someone who has wore out their welcome, doesn't seem to be able to pick up on normal social cues and can't take a hint without a sledgehammer attached, to go home, stay home and to not talk to me like that. I emailed him back saying I would get in touch with him when I feel better. I don't feel like this relationship is going in a good place, and his handyman ways, while helpful, have taken a back seat. I do not need someone to feed who doesn't help out around the house and wants me to act like a wife, while acting like a baby himself. It is like having a sullen teenager in the house. Sulking, pouting an