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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureHolidaysRamadan · 1 decade ago

Converts: What was it like when you converted to Islam?

I just finished watching this film about a girl who is 11 and finds Islam and how she gets treated by her family

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbYADp56lDc - you can watch it here if you want

But anyway, watching it made me think of what it was like when I first wanted to be a Muslim - the feelings are still fresh. I was scared, confused, and felt torn apart because of the situations I was facing. This was almost 2 years ago

It’s a horrible feeling not feeling part of the ummah, not celebrating eid (so far I have been all alone in times of Islamic holidays, and my first eid consisted of me crying)

Not to mention all the changes I had to make - I felt like I had to change so much, and it was too much to take on at 15 - I wasn't the same with friends, I was trying to wear hijab in a community that despises Muslims and I kept dreaming of going to the mosque like a “Normal Muslim” – In some ways I was jealous of the kids who were Muslim so “naturally”, having Muslim friends and family, and it was no big deal to them, whereas every little thing was a big deal for me and I had to fight a great deal for it. Till this day I haven't been to a mosque, nor have I prayed with a Muslim.

I remember how everything was a mystery - I remember secretly buying my prayer compass and how amazed I was by it - like a 5 year old with a new toy.

Tell me how was it like for you? What events did you have to cope with? Christmas? Birthdays? Eids? What was it like? Did you ever feel like you are lonely?

Reason I’m asking is that after almost 2 years I feel like I am still struggling. I wish I had someone to wake up with at fajr, living in a household where I can hang Islamic pictures wherever I want, and not have to smell the smell of food during Ramadan while I am fasting – and get praised for wearing hijab rather than get treated like crap. I just feel so distant from everything. Have any of you converts felt this? And if so... did it have a happy ending, or is it the same?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Salam,

    i know what you're going through as I have an Iranian/Non-Muslim family too (who are very controlling and can be verbally/emotionally abusive)

    i hide to hide that i was fasting, celebrate eid alone lol, i've never been to masjid and have no Muslim friends either

    at least you can wear hijab sis...i want to sooo badly but when i brought it up my mom and her family flipped and were verbally abusing me and i didntk now much and just backed out..the only way i could wear it now is if i do it in secret...Insha'Allah i will next year (in secret)

    i walk outside and you dont know how i feel when i see hijabis.. it killsss me inside..i want to wear it so badly and be obediant to Allah Subhanhu wa t'ala.and sometimes it just seems so much easier for the born Muslims - can wear hijab, eat halal meat, pray openly, get encouragement, know arabic, etc etc etc..like i'm forced to eat non-halal meat cuz i have to eat what my mom cooks and my mom doesnt know that i would only want to eat halal meat (cuz u see my family ..my mom went from non-practising Muslim to... 'Spiritual'..so when i reverted..i wasnt like i'm converting to Islam..she saw me praying..and just thought i started 'practising'..but she doesnt even fully know what that entails)

    anyway i'm rambling but i wanted to say i know how you feel - i want to marry a Muslim brother Insha'Allah and have a weddint without haraam stuff and hang Islamic art and dont want to go clubbing ..wear modest clothes etc etc but EVERYTHING is a battle..she calls me names 'backwards'..says horrible things about Islam Astaghfirullah..that sometimes rings through my head and makes me really sad/mad..and yet i'm supposed to be kind/respectful and its really hard and sometimes i want to just completley cut her out of my life...but that's against Islam so..

    Insha'Allah we can please Allah Subhanhu wa t'ala as best we can

    i sometimes think it would be easier to give up but we cant!

    there were times i felt really alone..but we just have to remember Allah Subhanhu wa t'ala is always there

    Insha'Allah Allah Subhanhu wa t'ala will make it easy for you and i and all the struggling reverts (and non-reverts) and gives us strength. ameen.

    Source(s): sorry for rambling source: moi! :)
  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    I wouldn't say that Satan made me convert, lol. I don't believe in god, therefore I don't believe in Satan either. I didn't really 'convert' to anything. I just came to a decision that the idea of a god, such as the one in the monotheistic religions, is not working for me. If there is a god, I don't think he would send people to 'Hell'. That's the stupidest concept to me. That in itself could have been enough for my mind to stop believing in him. There are many more other reasons to list here. Life now is not better, but not worse. At least I have no guilt over everything, and no fear of some mean god who puts people in hell. Religion is there for those who need guidance. I know how to be moral without an invisible man threatening me to do so with fire. added: Don't try and say I don't know the religion. I was raised with sunday school, and have my short suras memorized. I did read the whole Quran in English (which is brilliant and I respect it), and studied other religions as well. It's nothing against Islam. It's against the idea of god in general I don't agree with.

  • 1 decade ago

    aw I feel so bad for you sister. I know I don't know what the feeling is like but I have a sense of it. I don't know if I'm considered a revert/convert but I was born to a Christian mother and a Muslim father who wasn't too practicing. I was always around my mother so i felt more christian until I started studying Islam and decided to fully accept Islam. My mom was acting like it was just a faze, but when she would see me praying or reading Qur'an she would make noise to distract me and always argue with me over Islam calling me brainwashed and insulting Islam. Also having to put up with this stuff from uncles, cousins etc. I'm the only person in my family who practices Islam. I know how the lonely feeling is like. Alhumdulilah, i go to the Mosque but I know what you mean by not feeling like a natural Muslim. All these Muslims are there with their families and I'm there with myself. I felt so left out going to Eid prayer, fasting, breaking my fast all by myself. None of my Muslim family live near me, only the Christian so yeah Christmas time is annoying because how they act. They act like I'm a criminal because I'm Muslim lol. I'm now trying to influence my little brother and now he's leaning towards Islam Alhumdulilah and he prays, fast, and goes to the Mosque with me. Things are getting better but the beginning is hard so just hang in there sister. You're a muslim women, the strongest women, so stay strong and Insha'Allah the future will look better. Who cares if people don't like ur hijab or you practicing Islam, Allah appreciates it :).

  • 1 decade ago

    I am not a convert, but I am so happy to hear about you being an irainian sunni muslim convert mashAllah :)

    Just remember this life will end sometime and its not forever, surely we go through hardships and difficulties, for example our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) he and his companions went through soooo much that it is beyond our thoughts..

    What we need to do is keep strong in faith for Allah is all merciful and will reward us in the afterlife InshAllah. Also wen the time comes you should get married with a practising muslim, so you can enjoy all these things you cannot have because of your family I/A

    All the best and peace be with you sister :)

    Btw can I ask you which country you live in? If its Uk then there are alot of mosques you can go to?

  • 1 decade ago

    I really don't know what to say.

    I see people around myself that don't like practicing Islam even though they where born in such a family and I see people like you which like to be in their place.

    It seems we would not understand a blessing (Rahmat) of God until we lose it?

    I really like to see their reactions when I show this quote of yours to them.

    You are doing great sis!

    This life exists maximum 70 years for us but the other world is infinite!

    God be with you in all the steps you take!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    dear ,suffering more means to be awarded more and more ,the one who judge you is the most merciful and the most justice Allah ,what a lucky girl ,am sure that those children who were brought up into Muslim houses envy you for the great chance you got

    nobody like to be lonely i can understand that but you know what you have a wonderful personality ,all what you need is to find a local mosque then you will get tens of friends after short time and you can enjoy the royal treating of reverts ,you already made a great step by being Muslims .so going to a mosque weekly won`t be that much big but it will change your life for sure

  • 1 decade ago

    Assalaamu Alikum Wa Rahmatullahe Wa Barakathu:

    May peace and mercy of Allah be upon Prophet Muhammad and his Companion and hi follower

    Masha’allah Sister very nice and May Allah show the right path (Islam) to all and Guide us all.

    You’re very lucky that Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala Guided you and don’t worry , its and exam which will pass, actually this world is an exam for the believers (those who know it) and we should pass this exam , Alhamdulillah that you and Muslim as Allah (SWT) describe the points of a Muslim in Qur’an: Chapter 103: AL-ASR:

    I swear by the time, (1)

    وَالْعَصْرِ ﴿1﴾

    -

    Most surely man is in loss, (2)

    إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ ﴿2﴾

    -

    Except those who believe and do good, and enjoin on each other truth, and enjoin on each other patience (3)

    إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ ﴿3﴾

    So Dear sister according to this Chapter of Qur’an every Muslim should be patience, because Allah is with those who are patient

    وَاللّهُ يُحِبُّ الصَّابِرِينَ

    And Allah loves the patient (146)

    Chapter 3: AL-E-IMRAN

    So we must be patient , Allah is Great and Greater than we think of, he is always with us and will help us solving our problems

  • 1 decade ago

    It was hard because of all the lies the media has spread. My parents weren't very happy about it but after a while understood me.

    It was specially hard giving up some of my favorite dishes because there had pork in them and again the family and friends don't understand it.

  • 1 decade ago

    awww sister don't worry you are more lucky than the muslims born in muslims house

    some muslims are only have muslims names.we were born muslims but we think you are more lucky because Allah guided you to right way as he did to hazrat abu bakr,khadijah,omer,Ali

    you are getting more ajar because you face the pressure in school in office in streets in every aspects of life

    when you reverted your book of deeds was nill wohoo i am feeling jealous now

    your reverting reminded me of early muslims who became muslims in makkah when its like swimming in the water of river in opposite direction

    Sister please pray for me and our brother and sister in Islam for jannah al ferdous

    May Allah reward you for your hard work ameen

    Source(s): my jealousy
  • 1 decade ago

    JazakAllah for sharing

    u see sister there so many people who are reverting to Islam

    see this

    Scientists accept Islam

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WzdePKItsFk&feature...

    American Neuro scientist converts to Islam

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j7fancLy3ds&feature...

    1.5 million people converted to Islam after 9/11

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTRR7z9Vc5I&feature...

    because of beauties of Islam

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wIxIk2Wta58

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