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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

how to deal with future mother-in-law....?

my boyfriend's gonna introduce me to his mom...is there anything in particular that i have to keep in mind when meeting your future mother-in-law for the first time?...btw,his mom is Russian and what do Russian ladies like their daughters-in-law to be?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    As a Phd in marital counseling, I can tell you that the information "Love My Man" stated has been proven by studies. If you were American in the first place, you would know that...or had ever studied psychology of any kind as to family dynamics.

    This is NOT supposed to be a forum of attack on people trying to help others. So try and be mature and kind. Russian or not.

    To answer your question.....Respect, and be yourself and show that you love your future mother-in-law's son......she will respect that and love you as a daughter, as long as she feels you make her son happy. Become friends with your future MIL. It works great for my wife and my mother. They are actually closer than I am to my mother. They even do girl's night out once in a while.

    Congrats and God bless you in your upcoming marriage.

    Source(s): PhD-Marriage Counselor
  • 1 decade ago

    First, be nice and curtious.

    Second, it should not matter if she is Russian or American...be respectful to her.

    Three, treat her how you want to be treated.

    I am divorced now but my former mother in-law and I had a great relationship before the marriage busted. We are on talking terms even now. Just be yourself and respectful and nice. The rest should take care of itself.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Be respectful.

    What is great about seeing your fiance' and his mother interact with each other.....is it will give you an insight to how he will treat you and any children you have together. It is true. A man that has an open and loving relationship with his mother will be a great husband. A man that has a love and caring for animals and pets, shows he will be a great and loving father to children. It is a proven psychological fact.

    If your fiance' is tense or angry with his mother.....be careful.

    If your fiance' is overdoting and talks to his mother with a "goo-goo" type of voice....he is a mama's boy

    If your fiance' has a fun, open, loving, respectful relationship with his mother.....he will be the same way with you.

    Congratulations and good luck. I hope you have a long and happy marriage.

    Source(s): Vast experience.....
  • 1 decade ago

    im Russian so i can give you some good tips she might be rude and will definitely talk about you in russian to everyone else in the room dont smile too much she wont like that say you like borsch and would like a recipe for it she will be over the moon about that dont talk about communist

  • 1 decade ago

    Be yourself. Treat her the way that you would want to be treated. Maintain respect for her and her relationship with her son. Do not ever try to manipulate her....she will see right through it.

    Good luck

    Source(s): My wife is great friends with my mother
  • 1 decade ago

    Just be yourself. There is no way to tell how she is going to receive you. Be nice no matter what happens.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think that all people are different. Just be polite and sweet.

  • 1 decade ago

    take it easy, if she sees in you the woman who is making his son happy, she will love you

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Probably wont matter !!!

    Nogirl is ever good enough in mommas eyes

    Untill proved wrong ??

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