Girls: If you found yourself pregnant and not married, what would you do?

It happened to me. The father of the baby and I sucked it up and moved in together, got married, and now have 2 kids. We were in love and as a catholic, abortion was not an answer. I do not regret anything. Lucky for me he wanted to be with me. I was 19 and he was 20.

Nature is really cruel because the girls most likely to "find themselves pregnant" (party girls) also make the worst moms.

I was over at a friends house helping her study. Her daughter is 4 years old. She is having a really tough time as a single mom. Don't get me wrong, she loves her little girl, but she told me right in front of her kid that if she could do it all again she would have an abortion.

I wanted to ask her how she could look into those beautiful baby blue eyes and wish that she had aborted her child. Instead I just bit my tounge really hard because all I had to do was just look around to see how this child has affected her life, her relationships, her future and so on.

She was so unprepared emotionally, physically, financially, etc., to bring a life into the world. She was a party girl and never gave a thought past her own nose and now she is forced to think of the needs of someone else. It is not pretty! She would much rather be out partying than stuck at home changing diapers. She's angry, disillusioned, and pretty much hates everyone!

I get that a baby shouldn't be "punished" for the parents actions, but how is being unwanted, a burden, and being labeled as a "mistake" any better?

I've found myself in this situation 3 times. The first time I got lucky because the father and I started a relationship and then I got pregnant again. Needless to say, the second time, he bailed and didn't claim the kid for almost a year after he was born. I am very fortunate though, because their dad and I share custody of our children. I'm so glad that their father is a big part of their lives' but I wish he was more responsible(ie; take them to doctor, volunteer in school, CLIP THEIR FINGERNAILS, stuff like that). However, we aren't married and I can't tell him what to do or how to raise our kids since we ended our relationships over five years ago.

The third time was really hard for me. And still is as I am only thirteen weeks pregnant. Well this time I was married. Only my husband was a selfish, uncommitted jerk. We tried working things out but he is still immature. Now let me tell you what I'm doing....

Made an appointment with a OB, taking my prenatal vits and just taking it one day at a time. If my husband decides to grow up and be a man that will be great for our child. Just remember, a baby is a blessing and you should grasp that thought throughout your entire pregnancy.

If I got pregnant with my current boyfriend (which I intend on marrying anyway) I would marry him. If I got pregnant with a man who I wasn't in love with then I would not marry him but keep the baby and raise it on my own with the help of my parents. I would NEVER abort the baby nor would I give it up for adoption, it is my responsibility and I would plan on taking care of the baby to the best of my ability.

I wouldn't get an abortion but I don't know if I would keep the baby or put it up for adoption because currently I am not doing financially well being a college student.....I would be tempted to keep the child but would make sure I would have resources and a lot of help available from friends and family.

I would try and look beyond the immediate picture (of a cute little baby and a new life) and consider the following.

That a child is for life, could I afford correct schooling, clothes, and medical care for my child. What support networks could I rely on. Could I work and afford baby care during work hours. Would the father be reliably supportive.

I would also consider and understand a loss of freedom and would that bug me or not.

I'd also ask myself am I good parent material, in that, am I stable, do I know how to parent a child in the best way possible.

If I answered no to these questions I would consider giving this gift of life to a family that can provide all those things. Or consider abortion if I could deal with that emotionally. If I said yes I can, I would do it 100% as a child is certainly a gift.

Found yourself pregnant? The womans body is a baby making machine. Just add men. Did anyone explain that to you?

I would never get an abortion. It depends on how old you are though. At my age, I would seriously looking at giving the baby away - it would be the hardest thing in the world but if you love something enough, you'd be able to. Although with the guy I have - it wouldn't be that much of a challenge to keep a baby.

You don't "find" yourself pregnant. Being pregnant is the result of a conscious choice made by two people. Me personally, I would not opt to make that choice while being unmarried.

The idea is to only sleep with men who would marry me if the birth control failed. We'd have to love and respect each other and be in a serious, monogamous relationship before sex.

If my boyfriend wasn't who I thought, I'd still keep the baby (I'll only have sex after HS so I can potentially support a kid) and hopefully he'd be involved and able to pay child support. It would be nice if our families helped.

If I got raped, I'd put the kid up for adoption. It gets to live, I get to have a life.