Court ordered visitation with Father, need answers please?

first of all, you have every rite to call the father of that baby [ with sickness, & problems with child .. visitation , etc .. ] and if she interferes with that, she is NOT A GOOD PERSON !!! YES TAKE THEM BACK and why is she putting her nose in his and your business ? YOU NEED TO SET HERE STRAIGHT WHERE YOU STAND ..... YOU ARE THE MOTHER ..NOT HER

This was very disjointed and a bit unclear. You told them to keep the child longer, I understand. But the stepmother was a bit abusive to the child by pushing her and the woman's parents took her and eventually brought her home. Don't worry abou the day earlier. Don't sound as though you didn't want your daughter back. So be careful about how to word this.

Yes, you should go to court and redefine a visit and who is to pick up (should be the dad) and who should drop off. Parents usually do have visitation rights and is good, which you seemed to know. But cna't jerk you around either. Document everything. If he brought her home the evening of the 24th, then his visit may have been over. Can't just pick up and drop off as they choose without your permission. But the brother had no right to come get her, only the father (court may say the stepmother). You don't have to let the child go with anyone.

You do need to go to your attorney and tell this story and to go back to court to clarify who can pick up and when the visit ends. And who can watch the child. Sounds like the woman's parents are good people. Be appreciative. Don't try to communicate with the wife, but only with the dhild's father. it is the father who has visitation rights, not the rest of the family.

Well since you weren't present you can't take for granted the acuracy of the information you were given, and you can't use the argument that "silence means guilty." Also the stalking-calling with "I need I explanation NOW!" is not going to help you build a good relationship either.

For now I would suggest you to give them a break since it's the first visit and you don't want to look like the "evil ex-wife", give them some room to adjust tot the new scenario, just document everything and if it shows a pattern of conduct then take it to the court to modify the visitation agreement as much as it might be needed.

Whatever you do, when you actually decide, use sentences and paragraphs when you communicate, so your side will be communicated clearly.

The parenting plan was for him to have time with his daughter. If they're just passing her off to relatives, who don't particularly care for her, I'd want to revisit that.

Absolutely!

It sounds like they aren't really following any kind of guidelines or plans at all.

You don't know this woman and she's going to be around your child alot, she needs to have a more clear idea of what is acceptable and what is not.

I think you need to stick to the letter of the parenting plan and not get involved in what goes on at his home. Just stay out of it. If he doesn't comply with the plan, document it. If you need it later, you'll have it. Keep all correspondence, texts, e-mails, phone msgs etc. Let his msgs go to recording so you have it all documented. I suspect he'll lose interest in his daughter -- and probably sooner rather than later.

Good luck.