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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsOther - Family & Relationships · 1 decade ago

Please help... I don't know what to do.?

Hey friends. Well, as the title said, I need help... Here's the story. My dad has always been a short tempered, wanting type person, often screaming at my mother for now reason. I've been dealing with this for as long as I can remember... But now, my dad is saying I can't do anything, that I'm a failing student, stupid, unable to make it past high school and that I'll probably never make it to college. He's been doing this so much to me that I can't deal with it and I've fallen into depression... I'm very quite now, rarely ever talking to anyone. I don't know what to do... I've even considered suicide... Please, I do not want to sound pathetic or weak, but, can you give me advice? If you're about to say, go to counseling, well, my dad would never attend one, he'll just beat me up for trying to make him go to something like that. Thank you and happy new years...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    You are not getting what you need at home, which is understanding, acceptance and a safe place to be. You must look outward, stick around with people who are positive, who know you well and think you are great, visit families you feel comfortable with, stick with friends who understand your issues and don't judge you. Don't isolate yourself.

    My dad was exactly the same, and I did all of the above. I did great things with my life and my dad never changed, he was bitter and insecure until the end. You may be depressed now but all that means is you are thinking about things, and realizing your dad has issues.

    Make you new year resolution to find "you" and give you all the nurturing you need.

  • 1 decade ago

    You need to talk with your dad and tell him that he has hurt you enough, and the best thing for him to do is not talk to you. I hope soon you will be of age that you can leave home.Happy new Year.

  • 1 decade ago

    im in near the same situation. my dad is crazy and violent, he screams and threatens me to eat fist all the time.. we have many holes in our wall and scars on our hearts to prove this. but sometimes i learn that there is not much we can do to change them... we can calm them or enrage them, but we cant change them... i fought with my dad for many years. to the the point where we were trading punches (and i was a fourteen year old girl). though he always won, i never saw how much worse i made the situation by not just lettting things go.. im not telling you to walk on egg-shells. or to let him have his selfish tyrades. by all means stand up for your mom and family if it comes down to violence.. but god dont let him effect you. if you get all hot and angry every time he does, soon, you will become just like him. sadly we already are a bit like our father. crazy as could be. but my suicide attempts did nothing but hurt my mother (who was the only one on my side). you must learn that the years to escaping that house are not far. and the best you can do is try to co-exist. instead of fightin agree to disagree. dont give up. but sometimes if its not tooo important just give in. let him ***** and whine till he is blue in the face.. then if you give him no reason to go on. he will soon come to the conclusion thst he is an ***. mine did. now he tends to stick up for me a lil' more. but things are still rough. and my dad is onto me bout school stuff too. there is only two things you can do.prove him right or wrong.ignore his blubblering ignorance and take hold of your own future

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Go to the school counceler and tell her the deal and what will happen if he finds out. You need to get out of this situation. This is not good for you or your self esteem. You can also go to DSS. Do what ever you need to , to help yourself.

  • 1 decade ago

    Depression is something that may be hard to confide in someone about, but it is very important that you take care of yourself. Please get professional help. You are worth the beauty that life has to offer you. I wish you all the success and hope that you take my advice and realize that you are a awesome person and deserve to talk with someone that is experienced in that field to help you. Good Luck.

  • wedos
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    ed get on the phone right away to a suicide prevention hotline.The will help you and have plenty of outlets to help you.You father wont ever be able to hurt you again

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you're dad is really that much of an @ss I think you should call the cops on him because he should be encouraging you to do well in school and setting a good example. That's the point of a father. You shouldn't just let him treat you that way. Suicide won't make it any better. You can't let one person make you feel like killing yourself. BTW, if you're a troll then I'll be pissed

  • 1 decade ago

    prove your dad wrong show him that you can make it through collage.

  • 1 decade ago

    it's called verbal/mental abuse..please talk to your guidance counselor or call a hot-line for abuse and get help right away..you do not have to stay in your situation

  • 1 decade ago

    same thing is happening to me but im not deppressed and both my parents are doing this to me..

    hold in there when you graduate you're free! and stay away from your dad.

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