Looking for suggestions for my daughter's birthday.?

This might sound harsh, but why not celebrate your daughter's birthday during the day, and have a celebration of life for the missed Aunt later in the evening.

Don't make the day sad for your daughter, over the passing of a beloved Aunt. It can cause your daughter to view her own birthday as a sad day and not meant to be happy, and later on she may not even want people to remember it because of how sad her day is to her family. Yes they shared a birthday, but your daughter is still alive, and deserves for the day to be a happy one.

I do know what I am talking about on this subject. My Grandpa died 1 day before my 1st birthday. Not one person on my dad's side of the family forget my birthday and not because it's my birthday, but because that's when he died. I came to dread my birthday coming.

The last wish my grandfather had before he passed was that he got to celebrate my 1st birthday, because he and I were close, and I was his only grandchild by his only son (so I was the only grandchild to share his last name), and he died before he could share that day with me. My family has never forgotten that, and it has made it really hard even years later.

Some have told me that when I was younger that after he had been buried that they took a piece of cake with a candle and put it on his grave so he could still share birthday cake with his granddaughter.

Sorry for your loss, and I hope I wasn't t0o cruel in my answer.

For this first birthday without your Aunt you should start the day with stories of her and how much she has contributed to your life and how much you miss her. Then thank God you have your daughter to share the memory with and make the best day for her. This is what your aunt would want. To be enjoyed, not cried over.

So make a cake with your daughter in mind a character cake or one covered in flower or what ever she would love. And have party she would enjoy and remember your aunt with happy stories.

This is one of the life changes that every one has to go through and how you handle it will teach your children how.

Good luck and God bless.

I'm sure your aunt would want you all to have a good day and not dwell on the fact she isnt there. you could mix in things that remind you all of her (like say her favorite kind of cake) and instead of being sad remember the good things about her and talk about them on that day. its hard because in the back of your mind you'll always be thinking how much it would be better if she was with you, but remember she will always be with you in your memories and in your hearts!

The day before the birthday, talk with your kids about the Aunt. Remember her however you usually do. Then tell them that tommorow, lets just have fun like she'd want us to! Then celebrate the birthday just like any other birthday.

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