The best way to get over all?

the important thing is to move on and not look back its all a battle of ego . but seriously you never thought even with daytime tv? come on, come on, COME ON!

The only reason that your heart is all wrapped up in this guy is because you allowed yourself to have sex with him. Do not blame him for your own selfishness. If you would have not spread em and allowed this deep intimacy to conjoin your hearts/souls and minds, you would have problem now.

Did your mother not tell you do NOT have sex OUTSIDE of marriage?

You are your own worst enemy! You allowed it because you wanted him. Let's see - 10 years ago you didn't know this person existed. Why now are you devastated over this loss? It's because you are so fully immature in your own identity, so empty and shallow of your own self-worth; that you have allowed yourself to find a kind of joint identity within another person or from another person. One - this is just stupid! You are supposed to be in control of your own emotions, not allow some other person twist you around with their WORDS, ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS!

You are the classic codependent. You allow someone else to manipulate your emotional state. This is because you are so very immature and should not have been getting this deeply involved with someone else UNTIL you were ready to give out of your own abundance instead of only being able to TAKE what you lack.

How to get over it? You have to come to forgive him his trespass against you. It is only when you can forgive that you will feel released from the bondage of sexual immorality. Most people cannot and will not do this. This is why a person NEVER forgets every person they ever had sex with. They allowed themselves to come into a "one-flesh" condition (Genesis 2:24) with another person OUTSIDE the bonds of Holy Matrimony. You went into this for purely selfish reasons and now you will pay the price for that selfishness.

(he will too, but that's another story)

The main person that can really help you aside from the help of God above by the ways of praying is only your self, it must start from you the willingness, courage and motivation to really move on with your life without him anymore. Even you'll really think and feel at first that it's painful for you but there's no other way when you already know that you've done enough to save the relationship and him, just move on.

god is your answer, yet he had the signs of a cheater you didn't even know it because he was good at it, you just trusted in him too much now don't even trust in yourself when it comes to choosing a future mate or even believing in them. just stop hating him, move on work on yourself as time goes by you will be watching a movie, or someone will say something to you things will start coming together for you. in that means something he said or did, memories, pictures, friends have a lot of secrets now days don;t even have the guts to tell the innocent woman or man that they've been cheated out of fear because they are partly responsible for it. these so called friends that you both had bet at least 70 % knew about her and even helped the deception and downfall. that's how both of my marriages ended. so i don't let women close enough to me or allow men in my private life because whats mine is mine. that i don't share my man with anyone except his children and grand-babies.

why don't you just forget about him and just live on with your life.just do something you love to do in order not to think about him.once my friend said to me 'there will be someone better for you in the future'.you can do it if you want to do it.IF you want things to be more interesting why not confront him when he's out with the other girl.that way you will caught him red handed.no more excuse.

good god honey if you figure it out let me know!?!? The only thing worse is having been married and have two beautiful kids with the cheating a$$hole!?!