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I'm tempted to cheat on my boyfriend don't know what to do?
Well i been living with my boyfriend for almost two years now we have had our ups and downs but believe it or not it has never ever been because of me. Just yesterday a long lost "flame" contacted me and we always had a thing for each other but we never took it too far we would just make out have a blast dancing we really wanted each other but never took it there he had feeling for me and so did I, and I still think we do have feelings for each other and last night he found me on Facebook and one thing led to an other an he propose to meet somewhere what ever happens happens no strings attached. He know I'm with someone else he he says that lets just see what happens. when he found out 2 years ago I was going to move in with my boyfriend he called me and told m not to do it but since him and I were never serious I ignored what he said to me . I don't know if I should just leave the moment with him or ignore him. i have feelings for this guy but I love my boyfriend too. Please give me some serious advice.
13 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Sounds like this guy want his cake and to eat it too! He continuously comes in and out of your life but never actually offers you a future. If you really love your present boyfriend don't ruin what you already have. Think about how your present boyfriend would feel if he finds out you betrayed him. Don't ruin a good thing for something that is going nowhere.
- 1 decade ago
I've been in a similar situation on more than one occasion. Take it from me, if your relationship is serious enough that the two of you are living together, it's best not to rock the boat. The feelings you have for this guy can't possibly measure up to the ones you have for your current flame, or you wouldn't have made the move to share a place. Try your best to put the shoe on the other foot. If your boyfriend had an old flame he was chatting with and entertaining the idea of seeing in person, just to "see what happens" would you be likely to forgive if something DID in fact happen? Even if forgiveness was issued, the relationship would never be the same again. Ever. Trust is something that is difficult to earn and nearly impossible to get back once it's lost.
- ?Lv 45 years ago
It is utterly ordinary for your proposal pattern to be this style. I have felt that manner earlier than and didn't precisely consider unhealthy closer to it seeing that I knew i would not act on it. There particularly is not anything you'll be able to do to be much less tempted due to the fact that is how folks are. Even if you are the happiest guy/lady on the earth along side your companion, the mind wanders and creates targeted circumstances and eventualities and fantasies given that you'll be able to discover them beautiful or are critical approximately what might occur. We are easiest human. If you're cheerful along with your associate and admire that you are going to by no means cheat on him, as you stated, then there's not anything to fear approximately. Temptation is a *****, but it surely absolutely's a facet of lifestyles. So lengthy as you flooring yourself and recall that you're cheerful, permit your recommendations wander. Just don't pass too a long way with it. I wish you the pleasant of well fortune :)
- 1 decade ago
It is wrong to cheat no matter how you look at it. Even if you think it is just innocent chatting online, it is still wrong because you have feelings for this guy. I'm not judging you for loving one man and having feelings for another. But you need to figure out if you truly love your boyfriend and he is who you want to be with, in which case you need to break off all communications with this other guy because it will only cause problems. And if you think that the feelings for this other guy are too strong and might lead to something more you owe it to your boyfriend to break up with him before something does happen. It would not be fair to him if you decided to explore your feelings for this other guy while still looking him in the eyes saying I love YOU. That would be deceitful and dishonest.
Then again I have my personal opinion on this other guy. What kind of person is he to even suggest that you'd cheat on your current boyfriend. That alone says alot about a person's character. If he is ok with you doing that to your boyfriend who's to say that if you left your boyfriend for him he wouldn't do that to you.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
If you still have feelings for your boyfriend, forget about this "old flame" and stay with your boyfriend, things like this are bound to come up in a relationship but if you run off with them you'll be hopping from guy to guy and never settling down.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Sorry, but to be with the other guy, you have to either:
1) Break up with your boyfriend.
2) Find a way to thave a threesome.
Cheating is messed up. I would never let a girl cheat for me.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
DON'T DO IT YOU SILLY THING!!!
And trust me, it is a VERY SERIOUS piece of advice!
Are you seriously willing to trade the love you share with your boyfriend for a few moments of passion?
- 1 decade ago
You can't say that you love your boyfriend and also consider sleeping with someone else. You should leave your boyfriend because he deserves better.
- 1 decade ago
If you really want to go for the other guy, break up with your current boyfriend.
