Why is being nice such a bad thing?

Having a great group of friends and being respectful and nice to everyone is not positively correlated by any means. I once thought the same as you, I consider myself to be a 'nice' person and treat everyone with great consideration, and you believe that this is a quality people should seek for in a friend, as did I at one point in time. I'm sorry to say that what I have discovered is not that people seek rude, obnoxious people for companionship, but people who have a say in a matter. People who are decisive, fun to be around, and nice is just a bonus. Don't blame it on the fact that you're an amazingly considerate person for your lack of friends, but maybe try changing other things about yourself if you're not happy in your current situation. I recommend against changing yourself, becoming mean, or doing anything abnormal to surplus the amount of friends you possess, simply just continue doing what you're doing, and friends will find you. They found me. --- best of luck

Sincerely,

Once a friendless girl who was overly considerate

You have no friends. You do realize that being nice usually comes with being passive, meaning you can wonder all you want but unless you can actually force yourself to go and make some friends you'll have a hard time getting them.

You either come off as genuinely nice and relatively passive hence not interesting or as a fake nice pushover (not saying that you are).

Prove the people judging you wrong but remember to observe other's actions, sometimes you won't know how to approach, unless of course you can read people well... but that'd make you at least a tad more popular.

We live in a very competitive world as it is, but that does not mean that everyone is mean. There are two kinds of nices, there are those who are naive/innocent and are taken advantage of, and there are those who have a friendly/professional demeanor, who know when to say no, and who are better developed. In other words, there is mature/nice, and immature/nice.

u think u have no friends becuase u look for concrete evidence of this, its actually unlikely that any one in this day and age has no friends go call some people u from da school days, ak some people to go shopping or invite da people u know best to da movies or mall. just go out there and socialize.

No, you are wrong...... being nice is a good thing..... to yourself.... to others it may be "bad", but to yourself is Good.... having no friends, peace and serenity, and no one to interrupt, but it gets lonely....

Society is always here, but you aren't....

do something you like to do, like "disturbing" your friends, it is good for you but bad for them.....

Get it?

Pëople had lost respect

the first couple of sentences and the second couple of sentences are unrelated... you don't have friends because you suck socially... has little to do with being nice...

I'm exactly like you.

It's not that I don't have friends, it's that I don't fit with them.

people think you're a pushover when you're trying to be nice... i know it pisses me off sooooooo much! **** these people... **** life... i ******* hate people who think kindness is weakness... **** those people who aren't your friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i dont know maybe cuz you sound like a suck up lol