which do you think is worse...?

say you're dating someone. say you get wicked drunk one night and end up hooking up with your friend, but tell them about it the next day. it still sucks, but you know you made a drunken mistake and don't have feelings for your friend.

say the person you're dating develops a crush on someone else, and ends up holding hands with that person numerous times. they tell you about it happening one time and say it wont happen again, but you find out later that it keeps happening.

which do you think is worse? drunk hooking up, or sober holding hands with a crush?

thanks for the opinions.