words needed for a 19 yr old family friend who just died?

Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to those who are of a broken heart and saves such as are crushed with sorrow...

Psalms 30:5b Weeping may endure for the night, but joy comes in the morning.

Psalm 71:20 - Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up.

Psalm 126:5 They who sow in tears shall reap in joy and singing.

Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted

Jeremiah 31:13 I will turn their mourning into gladness. I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.

John 14:1-3 Let not your heart be troubled; believe in God, believe also in Me. in My Father's house are many mansions

2 Corinthians 1:3,4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.

Isaiah 14:3 - On the day the Lord gives you relief from suffering and turmoil and cruel bondage.

Revelation 21:4 - He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

My mom died a year ago so I can speak from experience on this. Most likely, your friend does not want to hear you say things like "God is in control" or to talk about how it was God's will that the person died. I am a believer but I still don't think such words help someone who is grieving. I am also a student working on my master's degree in counseling so I have studied some on grief. For the most part people who are grieving just want friends and loved ones close during those times. They can be comforted by an assurance of your love and/or affection for them. Many people feel very uncomfortable around someone who has just lost a loved one and so grieving people often feel isolated or abandoned. Try to just be with your friend and don't worry so much about trying to say the right thing to them. Words don't really accomplish much at times like this. Any words that might be comforting to them need to be truly heartfelt by you and completely sincere. People can generally tell when you are just trying to tell them what you think they want to hear. Another thing that people tend to do is avoid talking about the deceased person because they want to avoid bringing up negative emotions. Grieving people notice this and find it annoying and offensive. When my mom died, one of the most comforting things was for others to tell me how much they loved her or their favorite memories of her. I enjoyed talking about her with family and friends. It is also okay to laugh, especially if you remember something funny about the loved one who is now gone. Laughter helps get through tough times like this. I hope this helps.

you can always assure your friend that in the end, there will be a heavenly reunion. just keep the faith.

13 But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope.

14 For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep.

15 For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep.

16 For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first.

17 Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-17

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I'm afraid there may not be words at a time like this. We can just pray for the Holy Spirit to comfort them in their grief. But you can be sure that the Christian soul is at rest in a place where there is no more suffering. And no one there wants to come back here. It is those who remain who suffer.

Yours in Christ, Nick

Unorthodox, you nailed it! Great to hear from the perspective of someone who's been through such a tragic loss

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Unorthodox said he had lost his mom. This family lost a 19 year old. Those are BIGGIES! It's sad enough when it's grandma and she 93 and had a bad heart for many years. But for a child to loose a parent, or a parent to loose a child iT's pretty ROUGH. There will ALWAYS be the unspoken (or SPOKEN) questions of WHY?

Remind your friends that for the time being Satan IS the prince of this world. Until the day comes that God says "it is FINISHED!" up in heaven, and leaves to come down to this earth again, Satan will still have some freedom to hurt and torment and kill. Reassure your friends that it is NOT God's will that ANY of His children die! This is the work of our great ENEMY, Satan! There's a parable that's about that concept in Matthew 13. It's the parable of the wheat and the tares. Anyhow, it makes it very CLEAR that these kind f bad things are the WORK OF THE DEVIL! But it can be argued that God still did have to ALLOW it to happen...and that's true! But the problem is we can't see and know all that God sees and knows. Maybe God sees that by laying this young person to rest NOW it will have saved him from some horrible fate later in life. We just don't know for sure WHY God allows it to happen! Or why it had to happen to MY loved one, and not someone else.

Again....God is the only one who can see into the future, and we just have to hang onto Him in faith and remind Him of His promise, "I will NEVER leave you, nor forsake you."Hebrews 13:5 That promise there is for the survivors that are going to be missing that young man! God WANTS US to turn to Him in our sorrow, and if we DO turn to Him, eventually we will find comfort and hope.

Somebody once told me that my life is like a tappestry that God is weaving a picture of my very own life. As He works away at it, I can't see it like He does. He sees the TOP side of it, where He is carefully weaving a picture of my LIFE, All I can see of it is the under side. I look up at it and I can't see any picture AT ALL. I start to wonder WHAT'S Going ON? because all I can see are the threads crisscrossing each other at wierd angles that mean nothing to me...and I notice there are a lot of knots and even a few puckers! OF COURSE I start to wonder if God knows what He's DOING??! I worry about it and fret,"What's GOING ON up there, and why is it taking so long? When do I get to LOOK?? It's MY LIFE, afterall, I pout" Finally the master artist lays down His work and I shyly look over His shoulder. I GASP as I see the most beautiful picture I have ever seen. It's as though it's showing a trail. It wanders through dark heavy-wooded forests and through dense thickets. Sometime He used DARK, almost SHOCKINGLY DEEP colors for the forests; but I notice that the path, though narrow, is ALWAYS well marked.Then I see the green pastures and the still waters that He promised to lead me through. Things get much brighter and there are lots of flowers by the trail. I see the innocent sheep and He is right there as their Shepherd, keeping them safe and secure.(One of them is ME!) Sometimes the path climbs up over STEEP mountain cliffs, but I see blood on the rocks where bare foooted travelers have passed before me. I KNOW THEN that I can make it if I keep on climbing up and up. Off in the distance the GLORY of walls made of crystal and streets made of gold shine out in the with dazzling brightness...bidding me a cheery hello. Friends up ahead of me call, "Keep comming! Don't stop now! We're here ahead of you, and we KNOW YOU CAN MAKE IT! It's really not that far!" Then there's a picture of Jesus, with His hand outstretched with love. It's ALL I NEED to know! Jesus will be there to see me through!

That's what the tappestry of my life would show, I think; the hard, bad places and the shady cool places; but all of them leading to the Heavenly City God has prepared for us! Tell your friends it won't be long now! Jesus is coming for His children SOON! What a day of rejoicing that will be! Their son is resting quietly in the grave, asleep, and waiting for the resurrection morning! What a HAPPY, blessed thought!!

god is in control

I pray Jesus give you and all who knew him peace and Joy.I pray those needing Jesus will find Him.

Romans

John

1 Peter

That is what religion is there for. To comfort people.

**** happens. People die. Remember the good times you had with them. Get over it and move on.

Blah blah blah. Hopeful optimism! *pumps fist in an enthusiastic cheer*

"his death is god's will. god is in control"