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Is anyone not having more children because of money?
I'm just curious, is anyone not having more children because of financial reasons? I know I would love to have at least one more child,either through adoption or biological, but my husband is against it because he said if we have more than we won't be able to provide a good life for the two that we already have. I admit, we do a lot of activities with the two that we have. We go on a nice vacation once a year, and several mini ones throughout the year. We can afford to give them nice things, they dress nice, we eat well,let them participate in sports, etc. Having another child would definitely change that, so I can see his point, but there's still a part of me that really would like to have another child. Of course it's not going to happen without my husband's approval, but I was just curious if there's anyone else out there in a similar situation.
Asea, I never said I didn't want to give up my lifestyle. I said my husband didn't want another child because he doesn't want to take away from the other two children that we have. I'm fine with dressing my children with second hand clothes if I need too. I was raised that way. But DH and I both grew up being poor and we had no real opportunities. It's nice that we can give our children things we couldn't have when we were growing up, so I can see his reasoning why he doesn't want another child. They do not get everything they want, if that were the case we would be living in a Toys r us store. Yes, we could afford another child, and if it were left up to me, I'd probably have a couple more. But it's not. I was just asking if anyone else is in a similar situation.
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- 10 years agoFavorite Answer
Yes. Exactly. I think it is just how women are built to want to have children. My husband had a vasectomy right after the birth of our first child together and fourth child as a blended family. We agreed on it, but I don't think a month goes by that I do not say I want another baby. It is so hard, and all I can do is think about how lucky we are to have our four and be able to provide for them. When you get that feeling, spend more time with your children.
- dargonsilverLv 710 years ago
Never mind "more." My husband and I don't have any children as of yet. Part of our waiting has to do with just wanting to be married a few years without any children first. (We're four years in now, and it's nice to have had all this time to become really super-solid in our relationship.) But part of the reason we're not chomping at the bit to jump right into parenthood even now is the money thing. We don't want to just barely scrape by. We have no intentions of spoiling any child and aren't the sort who think that kids must get everything they want. Still, we're unconvinced that we have enough money to feel really safe and comfortable about having a kid.
For example, we really want to have 6 months to a year of living expenses stashed in a savings account before we have kids, because you never know when you might be out of a job. We have a healthy savings account, but we're not there yet. We also want to get more of the principle paid down on our mortgage. And so on.
I know that we are a little atypical in just how specific and perhaps "lofty" our financial intentions are and just how financially secure we want to be before having children, but we are plan-and-execute type of people when it comes to major things. We save the spontaneity for play time.
- Mostly HarmlessLv 610 years ago
No. I choose not to have more kids because they are loud, demanding, and there is no logical reason to want more than the two I have - a boy and a girl.
If I wanted more I wouldn't let money be the issue, when there is a will there is a way.
- ?Lv 510 years ago
If you like your current lifestyle then I guess another baby isn't a good idea, but to be honest, i'd rather have another child than take multiple vacations a year. I slso don't have a problem dressing my kid from a clearance rack or cutting back on the number of activities we do. But maybe that's just me.
It sounds like you CAN afford another baby comfortably, but that you don't want to give up your fancy lifestyle.
- 10 years ago
my French teaher told us that in France, the govemrent pays yuo ti have kids so you get more money if you have a kidp
