My son's father and I are no longer together. I need advice on how to co-parent and what to do?

Just talk about rules. What's expected of your son. As in no yelling or hitting or whatever. And then go over punishments, whatever you feel is good. And then have it understood that other things will be brought to the attention of the other parent, as in school field trips, sleep overs, new toys, and let them know that they should talk about it ahead of time and then if an issue you don't know about arises to talk to the other before hand.

Ask the father to join you in co parenting classes/counseling. It is big business with all the broken homes out there and eases the burden in family court with all the custody battles.

If you cannot locate one in your town, ask your local family court for a referral.

I was in a high conflict co parenting situation and it was the best thing we ever did. It taught us to establish a business relationship free of personal agendas and hurt feelings. The business of co parenting the child, no disparaging each other to the child, guidelines for communicating (such as email only regarding visitation), learning we cannot control what the other parent does in their home while the child is with them. We learned to accept that we chose to have sex and create a child so now we have to accept each other for the parents we are. Also, the biggest, was agreeing on when the child can be introduced to new relationships.

IF the divorce was a friendly parting then be the parents you "USED" to be... quite simple. my friend and his EX had a Non Court agreement and the judge said... "It reads this <She had Custody> but you wanna do this? Fine but IF I have to enforce the ruling I will". Basically Brennon lived at both houses, he went to a school that was close for both of them and they both were friends. when she go re-married her and the new hubby made Bret the God Father of their baby. kind of a touching story but everyone is friends.. this whole divorce thing is taken out of context sometimes!! I mean.. you two had sex and had this kid. their WAS something there at one time and IF it's not there now can't you still atleast be friends as you have a child together..

It's completely up to two of you, how will this work. Do your best do act decently, avoid arguments if he picks on you, or even don't be present when he comes to pick the child (if you have option, that is-for example, that grandma is present during pick-over). Stand by your rules, or, rules you two or the court has established, and don't let him do what he wants when he wants, because it will disturb both you and the child.

im going through the same thing im a child it is realy hqrd to deal with it my sugestion is u should lighten the rules and act as if it nvr happend and try to keep him in touch with him as much as posibl cuz wen my dad left he ignored us fot a long time nd since we r poorer then most we wer forced to move after move 8 times in 3 weekz it felt as if he didnt care about us until my mom forced him to com by but now hes moving to a diferent state so i gues my dad doesnt realy care about us ur luky ur atleast in that situation ........ mines muuch worse in wats goin o. (that wasnt the whole stoty curz i dont wana type it cuz my fone suks att that