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How do i stop analyzing my bfs past relationships?

he is my first boyfriend so one thing i have trouble understanding stuff. for example i adore him and have deep feelings for him. i cant imagine feeling any other way about him. so when he talks about his past relationships i have trouble understanding how hes over them. which he is, but how do i understand that? ive tried just not understanding and not thinking about it but i cant.

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  • Josh
    Lv 6
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Focus on your current relationship, and try not to think about his past. Everything you start think about his past stop, and focus on something in your current relationship, like the way he broke you coffee etc.

  • 9 years ago

    That's hard to not think about, because in my head at least I think "I wonder if he ever thinks about past guys or compares our relationship to his other ones." but then I think, no he doesn't because he doesn't call me his exes name, and theres a reason why they are called exes. But when I've doubted that sometimes I think "he can think about whatever. But he'll be missing out on a guy like me. And as long as I am happy loving him and enjoy him then that's all that matters." but when you have it happen, you'll understand how it all works. :D

  • 9 years ago

    Let me advise you that my solution is not one you're going to like.

    You shouldn't have to be dealing with his exes in any form or capacity. And now, he's not over them or he wouldn't be bringing them up.

    When asked very directly, I'll tell a lover about former relationships. When pressed, I'll even explain why the relationship ended. If the fault was mine, I claim it. And if I've been dumb enough to bring up an ex lover, I expect anyone I'm with to claim their error.

    Trust is very impprtant in any relationship. Honesty is a key, And any time anyone claimes to be faultless, I start asking questions. Generally quesitons that they don't want to answer.

    D

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Let the past be the past

  • 9 years ago

    learn to trust. before a guy gets married every partner is a notch in his belt. it's just his ego talking. if it bothers you which im sure it does sit him down and tel him

  • heya
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Don't know what you're really asking, are you saying that you're getting jealous?

  • 9 years ago

    Sex.

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