My parents are divorcing and it's devestating ?

I think you did right... its not fair or good for children of any age to keep silent about this IMO. Who knows why your mom did this but your dad knows and time and Gods help is what will help... It takes courage to do what you did. Its a shock to know a parent has been unfaithful... but give yourself some time and learn to forgive your mom... she may not know really why she did what she did and who knows what your parents intimate life ... their communication, their relationship... was really like. Work on keeping your marriage free from things that can cause problems.

Sorry to hear about your parents divorce.It is hard at any age to accept something like this,especially as these were the ppl who brought you into this world,and the 1st ppl you ever knew.The only thing you can do is have faith in the lord,and be there for your parents.I wish I could wave a magic wand and POOF things would be fine,but that's not reality,I went through the same thing but much younger,I wish you the best of luck.

God Bless

The divorce is between your parents, and the reason for it, is between them too. The pain that you have about it, has to be dealt with by you and you alone. In saying this, you can still have a relationship with your parents but the boundaries and how you are going to accomplish it for yourself, have to be figured out by you and you alone. You have to be happy with those boundaries.

For me, I just banned my mother from coming to family occasions at my home because she would play up whenever my father was around, and be quite nasty to him when she was the naughty one. I also refused to have anything to do with her man. Although she would try to make me feel bad and guilty about things, I just ignored her guilt trips and games because I was happy with my decisions and that's all that mattered to me.

Your parents lives are really the ones most affected. After all, they were married for decades. Can you just do what you can to make sure they are happy. Also, don't give either one a hard time ever over new relationships. Their lives are their own. Always.

Wow, I just can't imagine what you're going through. What a terrible burden -- first to have to hide it, and then to have to reveal it. Wouldn't it be nice if we could sometimes just un-know what we're learned?

I can only go by what you've written here, but I think your mom needs to take responsibility for what happened. She needs to apologize to your dad, and she needs to apologize to you. When she owns up to what she's done, I think you'll feel a huge burden lifted off your shoulders. Then maybe things will start to heal.

Good luck.

divorce is divorce. any kind, any age is desvistating. ive gotten depressed and ive never felt the same. things change, youll have to accept thqt. you can control your life though and what happens sense youre old enough. dont lose your parents though, keep close still. you learn to move on and create new happiness. i think now, even though things are and still emotionally after five years is still rough, ive been some of the happiness and most gaining parts of my life. it takes time, but youll learn to cope and create it into something that makes you happy if that makes sense.

My Dad cheated on my Mom, while he was going through cancer, so I kept it to myself, it still bothers me, but I guess it's not my place, especially because she was not there for him.

I feel that it might have been best for you to have stayed out of your parents personal sex life. It seems that nothing good came from that disclosure,

Maybe it was all just a dream? Just one long bad dream. And on the count of 3 you're gonna wake up... 1... 2...