How do I stop being controlling and possessive over my boyfriend and to stop worrying?

Sounds like you need to mellow out. Have you tried smoking weed?

If what you say is the whole story, it sounds like there are no objective reasons for your being controlling over your boyfreind. Many people have this problem because they have been let down by people close to them in the past - family or friends. It's then really understandable if it's hard to trust people in the future isn't it? No-one likes being let down. Everyone wants to be cherished, valued and cared for.

It might help to spend some time getting to the bottom of your feelings. Keeping a journal can be helpful. Some people find meditation useful for getting a grip on unruly feelings. And if the feelings are persistent, and really making you unhappy, counselling might be useful.

Gosh this is tough. I'm glad you're taking this step though! I'm not exactly sure what to do? Maybe just start slowly let him go out - that sounds bad because you don't own him and he can do what he wants. Suggest that he goes out with the boys and you have a ladies night? Try to keep him of your mind. Just have fun with your friends. If you trust him, there shouldn't be a problem. Relax. I'm sure he'll really appreciate that you're loosening the leash. So what exactly are you worried about him doing anyways? It seems like he has done nothing wrong. I think you're just being insecure.

You'll either grow out of it, or spend the rest of your life on the edge of anxiety (or alone because you drive people away..)

Alternatively, hit yourself on the head with something every time you have such thoughts and you'll soon stop, or have lots of headaches.

My brother had (<----note) a wife like that, to the extent that she went on business trips with him to make sure he didn't stray, which he had no intention of, but once that insecurity is there....... it's the itch that can't be scratched.

Hi am a boy 19 years old i am in possesive with my boy friend..but now i know it is wrong .but i cant cintrol my self.how can i control it?

Have a talk with him and discuss you problem.