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She's offering to do things for me that she HATES?

I HATE the idea of anyone doing anything for me that they do not want to do - even the smallest favour.

I absolutely HATE the idea of anal sex (sorry for the details). The idea disgusts me 100% and I do not know why so many men love it so much (I'm male btw). My gf told me that she's tried it once and didn't like it at all. So far so good, right? No problem.

BUT then a few weeks ago she was REALLY upset by something that happened at uni and she told me she needed to learn to say "no" (apparently, she agreed to send another student all of the notes from a class he'd deliberately not come to). I told her to practise on me, but she said she wouldn't feel right. So I decided to throw something her way and see how she reacted. She KNOWS that even though I've never done it, the idea of anal sex disgusts me AND I know that she didn't enjoy it. But I told her I wanted to try it "just to see" and she replied "if you really want to, I'll try it with you".

This really scared me and I told her that it was just a test. WHY is she willing to do that? She told me she DIDN'T enjoy it. Even if I DID really want to try it, I would NEVER suggest it, knowing that. Sex is a MUCH more invasive process for a girl and the fact that she's offering to do something she hates (not even "didn't enjoy that much", she actually used the word "hate") just for me worries me. How many other things is she doing for me then that she doesn't enjoy? I'm now finding myself second-guessing EVERYTHING with her in case it's another thing where she's actually not enjoying it at all, but just doing it for me.

I would MUCH rather go without, myself, than see her put through anything she doesn't enjoy. I'm freaking out here, because I love her and HATE the idea of her doing ANYTHING she doesn't want to do, or throwing out her own schedule for me. What can I do to calm down and ignore this VERY BIG worry of mine? Thanks in advance.

Update:

Anthony: I'm trying, but if she didn't enjoy it, why would she want to do it again? Would YOU want to repeat something you didn't enjoy?

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  • 9 years ago
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    She obviously is willing to let you try it for yourself, she wants to make you happy..

    your taking it too far, it sounds like she cares about you and even if she didnt really like it, she knows you havent done it, and doesnt want you missing out.

  • 9 years ago

    Dude chillax lol. Just be happy you have a girl that would do anything for you. Girls like those are hard to find nowadays. She never said she never wanted to do it. She just said she didn't enjoy it. Aha. Chill bro! :) you're over thinking it man.

  • 9 years ago

    Although some women say they don't like to take it up the poo tube, they actually do. She probably only said she doesn't like it so she didn't disgust you. I think you should just give it to her in her chocolate mud cave... have a nice time making chocolate donuts together!

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Your making something out of nothing. Just dont do the anal.

  • 9 years ago

    Maybe she loves you and just wants to make you happy

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