I feel like my mom is too strict, how can i talk to her?

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i am a senior in highschool and since i was in tenth grade i have been working 30+ hour weeks paying for just about everything i have and when i was 16 my mom never paid any attention i could do just about whatever i wanted, now im almost 18 and she has gotten oddly over bearing friday and saturday nights she calls me and texts me all night and expects me to come home at 10pm all the time...im always working so i never have any time to socialize, ive always had good grades (i have a 3.3 gpa) but now she just doesn't trust me. My dad on the other hand (divorced parents) will let me go out drink whatever as long as i am honest with him. He knows im not stupid enough to drink and drive, i know not to go to parties where police are around, or parties that even have the slightest chance of being busted, i never drink too much. I don't understand the policy my dad has compared to my mom. How can i talk to my mom so that i can enjoy my senior year of high school (that doesn't just mean go out and drink) instead of having to sit at home every weekend while my friends are out having fun

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the other thing is i want her to understand that i would be ok with staying at her house through the first year of college even if she weren't so "caring" also she doesn't realize her being strict only makes our relationship worse. Me and my dad have an amazing relationship because i can talk to him about anything and he understands what im all about my mom on the other hand will force me to be at home and when im forced to be at home im not gonna be in a good mood around her. and she also needs to realize strict parents make sneaky children

RedMoonSprite · Accepted Answer

Okay, let me start by saying she's realizing her baby is all grown up. She's trying to hold on to you as long as she can. She's probably afraid of you moving out and on with your life and forgetting about her. It may sound silly but it's the truth (or partially anyways). Your mom might also be worried about you getting drunk, driving, and killed. You may not drink and drive but to a mother who worries about her children, she's not thinking that way. She's thinking what can I do to protect my baby and keep him/her alive. As much as it drives you nuts, her heart is in the right place. The only thing you can really do is talk to her.

? · Answer

Just talk to her about how your getting older, and you believe you should be trusted and respected. When your 18 you can do whatever you want, so maybe shes getting upset that shes about to lose you as a child and realizes it now or something.

Anonymous · Answer

tell her lay off I'm 18

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