Is verbal adultery a sin ?

yes, Jesus said that thoughts and words can equal adultery.

stay away from this man. he is married. if he had ANY integrity he would not be flirting with you, or even conversing with you, in anything but a very, very innocent and platonic nature. he is not guarding his heart or his marriage, but sounds like he's looking to cheat. stay away from him altogether. forget being 'friends' with him.

that's my best advice. i realize it's not always easy. would i follow it myself? maybe if i was young and stupid, i wouldn't, but i'm just telling you what the smart thing to do would be. good luck in this situation. i hope you do the right (and smart) thing!

First, are you certain that he is not just a flirty guy who wants to stay in touch with you as as friend? It's not unusual for certain men to be big flirts by personality, and they mean absolutely nothing by it, they are totally committed to their wives and would never consider having an affair, Verbal or Otherwise. If he's this kind of guy, he is NOT a Verbal Adulterer. (Yes, Verbal Adultery IS a sin. It is cheating, lying and pulling a serious and hurtful deception upon one's spouse. In my opinion, it is more immoral and much more hurtful than making a stupid mistake and having a one-nighter of sex. Much!) The only way you can know for sure is to ask him. Even then he may give you a false or half-true answer.

As for YOU.....The 9th Commandment clearly states, "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbors wife!" (and husband of course). If any part of you desires a Verbal Affair, or would enjoy or even accept his attention if these are his intents **even if you were not at all returning these sentiments** AND

**even if you were not enjoying these sentiments from him**, this still makes you are VOLUNTARY participant in HIS Adulterous Intentions, and therefore you are an Adulterer yourself. And that is a sin.

A marriage contains 2 people. Involve a 3rd person, who is NOT 100% "only a friend" from the perspective of one of the partners-----and the presence of that third person has made a crack in this marital realationship which would not have occurred without their contribution. Verbal or Sex, a crack is a crack, and that third party is accountable for the part that they play.

I am not a Christian, so I judge it as irresponsible and immoral. But if I were a Christian, I would most definitely call it a sin. The 9th Commandment is very clear on this.

**"Covetting" is voluntary participation in a relationsip with a man who is deceiving his wife. A sin.**

For both parties involved.

Yes, verbal adultery is sin.

James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.

James 1:15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.

Psalms 19:14 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

He is the one that is most likely to commit adultery. But if you "let him on" you are just as guilty, for you know that he is married. Would you want to be known as a "homewrecker"?

What you can do, if he does email you, is leave his emails in the "junk" file. After a while, (if you have hotmail) hotmail will not even send them through, they will be automatically deleted.

Tell him you're married, engaged, going steady, living with someone, a lesbian, anything to get rid of him.

Otherwise, change your email address.

If he persists, try to get him to tell you his wife's email address (you're a woman, you figure it out) and let her know what's going on. You might not be the only one!, and his wife needs to know.