Parents found out I spent the night at my boyfriends?

Sounds like your parents seriously need to cut the cord. You're 19 and still have to ask permission? That's sad.

I think your parents really need to not be so controlling your an adult and they need to understand that. The fact that you have to tell them where your going and when you'll be home is bit ridiculous. I have no issue letting my mom know where I will be so she doesn't worry. As for when I'll be home my mom isn't so worried about that. Try talking to your about lighting up with their need to control you. Tell them you work, go to school, do your part around the house and are a great kid and that you are an adult and would like to be treated as one and would like a bit more freedom, they are probably over protective but there has to come a point when they need to loosen up. And If my daughter did this I wouldn't be so mad if she 18 or older. I wouldn't control my adult kids so much. I might tell them to let me know where they might be going or an idea when they might be home and tell them to be careful.

What would I do? I'd say "so what?". If I'm old enough (and then some) to be in the military I don't think a little horizontal bop is out of order. Explain that if they feel the need to build all this mystique and nonsense around a perfectly normal biological funciton... that's their option. You have no such obligation.

OK, they are your parents and you should listen to them and all that, but since I'm 13, I'm not gonna go on about all that rubbish cos I know that's NOT what i would do ;), your 19, your a legal adult, if I were you I would tell them this, tell them that you undertstand they are your parents, but you are a legal adult which means legally you can do what you want. Move out somewhere with your boyfriend if it carries on. Of course give them a warning about this beforehand - 'I will move out somewhere you'll never find me if this carries on'!!

But to be honest I do feel a bit sorry for your parents cos mayeb the reason their so overprotective is cos they dont want you ending up like your brother - (but this is going to far, do the above if it gets too much).

My son is twenty, lives at home, and keeps me aware of where he is going to be. He is not allowed to have a girl sleep over. I get to say it's because of his ten year old sister but in reality, i wouldn't allow it anyways. If he wants to stay at a friends or a girls overnight, he tells me so I know where to reach him if I must and I don't need to worry about him. Don't threaten about moving out and don't lie to them. Tell them what your doing and whats going on so you can at least start the conversations.

your a grown up i think that regardless of you living at your parents you can do what you want you already do your part at there house and spending the night at your boyfriends ? that isnt doing anything wrong. if they dont like the fact if you tell them that you are your own person and you can do what you want then move out lol you sound like your gunna be able to hold your own anyways : )

you are an adult now and able to make your own decisions. Perhaps she was MORE upset cuz you lied to her. If you want to be treated like an adult and with respect then treat people the same. BE HONEST and let her know that although your respect and and love her you ARE old enough to make your own decisions and that it is time she let go and accept your life as an adult. Let her know that all she taught youy is part of who you are and she needs to trust you to do the right thing.

i understand how you feel i had controlling parents too. what i learned when you live under their roof its their rules. theyll loosen up as you get older. atleast your parents let you go out. mine were soo strict, i stayed there till i was almost 21 cause i couldnt afford to move out. mine hardly ever let me go out even if it was with my friends and i HAD to be home before 10 no matter what, it sucks :/

Follow the rules or move out

If I am paying for most of my child's expenses then I don't care if she is 19, or 49. If I have rules in my home then I expect her to follow them.

I am not saying what that your parents are being fair to you in regards to your brother. But since they are paying your way then it does not matter. Move out if it bothers you so much.