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Should I hold on to my girlfriend?
We have been dating for 3 years now. She is a girl that I chased for 4 years to be my girlfriend at high school. Now that we are at varsity things have changed a lot. It all started when I had 5 tests in one week, I couldn't chat with her and she got mad at me. After all the tests I texted her to apologize for not texting, told her I was busy studying, but she gave me the silence treatment for 2 days. Then one morning she told me it was over between us. I was stunned by the news... I tried to convince her to take me back but she refused and started ignoring me. I felt betrayed, we were the perfect couple at high school, we promised to each other we would fight till the end to be together. I felt like I was just used. I was alone for a couple of days, then one day she wrote a letter asking me back, I texted her and told her we could give it a try... Before we broke up, we had an intimate relationship, when we got back together again she tried to start from where we ended, but I refused... I removed sex from our relationship to see how we would communicate.. She always asks me when I will say "I love you" to her, to which I always reply "when you earn my trust again". I just can't keep throwing those words to anyone. Our communication has been horrible. Last month she came at my place to give my birthday present, I took her phone and went through her contacts... I couldn't find my number, I went into her messages and got texts of a guy asking her "when will I get my hug?" And other stupid things. I just smiled and then gave her back the phone. At times I feel like she is cheating on me... I moved into another town and met a girl who I have been telling my problems, a week ago she asked me to dump my girlfriend and be with her... Need help! Should I stay with my girlfriend or move on with the new girl?
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- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
As a girl I can understand why she got so pissed off when you didn't talk to her for a week. Most girls who are in relationships want to feel like they are the center of their boyfriends world. They want you to be thinking of them all the time and when you aren't they get pissed about it. You could've taken 5 minutes out of your day to call and say hey babe, sorry i haven't gotten the chance to talk to you today but i've been so busy studying. Just wanted to let you know i was thinking of you. She was right to get mad. You could've taken some time to call her or text her to show her you care. As for her breaking up with you, it wasn't right. But she probably felt that if she did that it would grab your attention and make you feel like she isn't some one you can treat poorly and get away with it. She did it more to scare you then to actually lose you. As for now, you aren't paying her any attention. Girls need attention to survive. The other guys who are texting her are giving her something you're not. It doesn't mean she's cheating. You are doing the same thing with the girl from the other town. Before you make any decision you need to sit down and talk to your girlfriend tell her how you're feeling. Tell her what you need and ask her what she needs from you. You both have to compromise to make a relationship work. Not just her. Communication is key.
- 8 years ago
Well it seems like at the moment, shes just using you for the title "boyfriend". If I were you and I saw my name wasnt in my bf's phone but was talking to some girl and she was saying things like that, id be questioning her. And if she just wants you for sex then its not a good relationship. You should talk to her about though and see what her responce is to the phone thing. And also talk to the other girl about and see what she thinks. Hope I helped hun.
P.S. Follow your heart and listen to it.
Source(s): Personal Experience, same thing happened to me - 8 years ago
Well, things obviously aren't working out with your gf. And it seems like neither of you are trying very hard to keep the relationship going. I mean, if you aren't trying what's the point of dating her? That's like playing a sport but never going to practices. It just doesn't work.
I'd suggest ending things with your gf and then go out with this other girl when you feel ready.
- 8 years ago
i think you shouldnt go with either. obviously u and ur girlfriend dont get along but if the other girl is willing to convince u to be with her instead of ur girlfriend she would probally be willing to do it again just with a diff guy.
- 8 years ago
Neither. If your girlfriend wanted to break up with you just for you not spending time with you, she isn't worth it. If someone asks you to break up with someone else.... that's just not right.
