PLEASE HELP ME..I'M OUT OF CONTROL !?

God is NEVER too busy!!! He is not bound by man's invention of time. He IS time. He has His plans for you, and don't forget that the answer is sometimes no. You also can't and don't want to expect God to perform magic and fix everything in your life. You have to fix it yourself.

OK, I can relate, but that is in my past. Ask yourself a few questions that will help you feel motivated to do what you know is right. How would you feel if you were his wife? Why are you "addicted" to him? Why can't you let him go even though your conversations are obviously against your morals? You are taking medication to deal with guilt and anxiety. Didn't your doctor ask why you feel you need this medication? You need to talk to a therapist or other professional to help you with your "strength" to do what will make you happy. You know you can't continue down this path. It's making you miserable. You MUST change. Are you a list-maker? Write down the steps it will take to make this happen, and set dates & goals. If you approach it on a schedule and accomplish parts at a time, it's easier. I ended my marriage over 2 years ago. I made myself a list also. It was more practical, of course, because I had logical household things to take care of (bills management, living arrangements, etc.), but I did include emotional goals and actions (steps to emotionally detach yourself, less frequent contact, etc.). I think the first of these should be to be honest with him about how you really feel - the guilt and anxiety. Further down the list should be a final hault to communication with him. At this point, he's like a drug, or like an alcoholic is with drinking. You can't continue a regular platonic relationship at this point, and you know it. You're going to have to go separate ways for your own sanity.

I have one final thought. Right after my ex-husband and I separated, I found an old HS flame on FB. We began seeing each other. He was recently separated from his wife. I was in love with the idea and the sweet story of us, NOT him. He neglected me and I believe he kept me secret to keep his options open with his ex-wife, as he still had deep feelings for her. He never admitted it, but I know he hoped to get back together with her. Regardless, I eventually had a conversation with him where I laid down the facts. I wasn't going to be someone's #2 anymore. Even though he was separated, I felt too guilty knowing I could be preventing him from getting back with his wife. The story of old HS sweethearts finding each other after 20 years was sweet. That wasn't enough.

Don't let this define your life. You need control over your life again, and only YOU will find it. Yes, continue to pray for guidance, but also help yourself. Be strong, as you are going to face a difficult road. Think about what your answer would be to your own post. Now put that into action, honey. Good luck and God bless.

First off Jean god is never too busy, next what you are going through isn't something you alone are facing and would ever be facing. You need to go back to your old routine. Take a lot of time and do thing so that your don't focus on the guy. You need to go hand out(not alone),lol...You are not insane or crazy...Its a phase and it will pass. There are many things you can do but the idea is to free your mind and to lose the guy from your thought...Hope it helps

ok first of all, your not out of controll... and second of all, tell him how you feel about this and tell him to leve you alone,(in a nice way) say if you really like me than you cant be doing this to me. and i dont think if im divorced that you would want to come running despertly... i dont think so at all.. and like he said, you matter most, and its for your best intrests in mind, not his. and you matter most... dont let him take advantage of you. your the boss when it comes to you.. And god is never too busey to listen to you. never. he will always be there for you, because he loves you.!!! that guy is a jerk to you (the man that was on the facebook) and even though he may seem cute, hes not on the inside and you dont want a guy like that.. ever. my mom tells me that if the guy scares you(like your case) than ''kick him to the curb'' you want a guy that likes you for you.. and this isnt something you should be stressed out about... its something that can be controlled!!!!! speak up for yourself and stand your ground and stop enabeling him and letting him make you feel like this... show him your a strong girl and no one is the boss of your love life... good luck.. but go to a doctor like a phsycyatrist ( i dont know if im spelling it right but im a pretty good speller) anyway enough with that.... you have so much potential, and you have so much power over him... good luck!!!!!!!! happy holidays(:

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If it is affecting you that much, you need to be strong and just cut him off completely. You are more important than he is.

Wow seriously? All the religious answers? "God" will not help you. You have to help yourself. Cut him off completely.