I need some help everyone?

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Hi. I'll try to keep this short the best i can. I've loved this girl for almost half my life. We met when we were teenagers and were together for like almost 7 years. Then we split up for like five years because she moved to Detroit with family and i live I'n Las Vegas. Anyways, we found each other again 5 years ago and been together. She has a daughter I've been raising and love more than anything. But now, this girl has been very shady. She moved I'n with her parents 8 months ago cause she said we need a break. I've respected her decision and her I'n general cause i love her. But she keeps getting more distant. I found out she's been texting another guy who is supposed to be her "freind". She calls me, but not nearly as much as before. I miss her and her daughter more than i can tell you guys. I cry every nite because it hurts so much. I'm starting to think i should try to get over her, but how? Has anyone loved someone more than life itself, and had to get over them? How did you do it?

bunnyONE · Answer

There is no magical panacea or miraculous remedy for someone who has decided not to be with you through one way or another.  Accepting it is over IS painful, especially?  Since let's face it Joe, she was not honest...too bad...BIG "strike" against her integrity.  I hope that she ISN'T the type that if boyfriend here doesn't work out?  She won't be calling YOU again for support and wanting to reunite - that would be just another "nail" in the 'coffin" of your emotional well being, would it not?

Were I you?  I'd stay busy with work, exercise and perhaps doing what you should have been doing before if you didn't, staying in closer touch with friends and family, if not joining a singles group at a local church, club or some recreational interest that meets once a week so you get out and mingle again.  I assure you Joe, TIME, one day at a time, is about the only remedy for getting over and past such a tremendous breakup of family.

I hope it heartens you to know?  You are far from being alone in this experience, we've all been dumped, in one manner of speaking or another.  Not easy.  Painful.  Many tears and great heartache.  But recovery CAN HAPPEN AND DOES, you just have to be your own best advocate and further?  Ensure this girl never does this to you again - PERIOD.  It's about protecting you from such vultures who choose the "revolving door" method of relationship to jerk you around on a leash when things DON'T work out in their lives...I've seen PLENTY of men and women do this.

The saddest part of this entire story, is the poor child...Her mother is damaging her by the way she has handled this, seriously - a wound that will be there forever in this child and may well determine her future stability in relationships.

Best of luck Joe...So sorry...It happens...It's ugly, but please, please, move forward and DON'T allow her back into your life any time soon.  Maybe someday as a distant 'friend" but no closer, or I assure you, this pattern WILL repeat itself.  She cannot be trusted, for a variety of reasons at this juncture.

Grace

Kendall · Answer

I think it's important to ask yourself, do you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? If you love her, then tell her how you feel and ask her where she stands. It sounds like you need an answer from her on whether or not you two are together or if she is moving on for good. If she is moving on, you should as well. Trust me, you don't want to be with someone that doesn't love you back. It is not worth it and as much as it hurts to let her go, you will have to. The hurt will go away and you will move on as well and find someone who loves you just as much as you love them. It is very important for YOU to feel loved as well.

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