How do you fall out of love?

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I was with my (now ex) boyfriend on and off for around 2 years. Throughout those years he made me feel like the luckiest person alive but also like the unluckiest. He cheated on me with a close friend of mine and proceeded to dump me and go out with her instead. They then broke up and we ended up getting back together. Even though he cheated on me I gave him a second chance seeing as my feelings for him were so strong. Now we've been broken up for almost a year, he's moved on but I'm still stuck thinking about him all the time. It's not that I think he's perfect, it's that even with all the **** he's done to me I still have these feelings for him. I don't know what to do and it hurts so much every day. I've tried getting over him, I've tried dating other guys, I've tried telling myself over and over again that he isn't right for me; but nothing seems to work. He's constantly on my mind, smells remind me of his scent, scenario's remind me of things we used to do together, songs remind me of him; I don't want to feel like this. I feel helpless and I know that we're never going to end up together, so I just want to get over him. It doesn't seem like anything's working. I know time is supposed to heal all wounds but I've given it time and I still feel this way. I'm falling apart. I cry all the time because I just want to see him, to be with him. It's not even about the physical ****, just being with him would be enough for me, but that's never going to happen. I just want to get over him.
Someone please help!

Gottcha · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong with still being "in love" with someone you've shared part of your life with. I think you just have to acknowledge that it didn't work out.

Mircat · Answer

The issue isn't him.  It's you and how you think about yourself.  Knowing the kind of douche bag that he is, you choose to ignore that and think that is the kind of relationship you deserve.  You think it's okay for him to be disrespectful to you and of your relationship.  You think it's okay for a guy to lie and cheat because you deserve to be hurt and treated like crap and that you can't possibly be worth anything.  If you have a good self-image, good self-confidence, a sense of pride and ethics you would be glad he was gone.  But you don't, you're almost begging for him to come back and mistreat you again.  You keep dragging all the emotional baggage around with you so that the hurt feels fresh every single day.  You haven't allowed it to settle in the past where it belongs.

You need counseling to find your self-esteem because I think it's been missing for a long time.  No more crying.  Go get busy and look for a therapist.

hott stuff · Answer

Why can't you be together. If this is the case maybe consider going back together. But if not i'd suggest the going with someone else that makes you more happy then he could ever. I'm sorry there's not much you can do. It'll just go away in time. Or he'll be that one time you'll never over! I'm hoping I helped!

sensualBC · Answer

Kurai, what your going through is one of the hardest things.. I am going through the same thing right now and sandly theres not much to do, but wait time is your best friend in a situation like this, and what I recomend you is to keep urself busy, keep ur mind busy too, its eventually gona pass, but u cant just fall out of love from one day to another :(

fluffman · Answer

Technecly you can't fall into love in the first place so you can't fall out of love either.

Anonymous · Answer

find someone else

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How do you fall out of love?

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