How can I get my boyfriend to understand?

As long as you live in your parents' home, you do have a very practical interest in keeping the peace by respecting their expectations. Being an adult does not mean ignoring family expectations, it means juggling them with your own interests to find a happy middle path. I think your boyfriend is being self-centered and controlling.

You're both right. You are over 18 and legally can do whatever you want, including spend the night at your bf's house. However, you do live with them and therefore should really abide by their rules. I'm assuming they will kick you out if you don't live by their rules? However, given you're age, you should be moving out very soon. I moved out when I was 17 and went to college. Not sure why you haven't yet as you didn't elaborate on that. Even if you're going to school, most people live on campus or get an apartment with some friends. You need to learn to be on your own and support yourself and there's no time like the present. Get out on your own and experience life! If you really like this guy, then you should consider moving out of your parents homes if they're that controlling over your life at your age. If you're happy where you are, then drop him, he is only thinking about himself and what he wants, not what you have to deal with at home.

I agree with you with what you're saying.

Your parents are lucky to have a thoughtful young lady such as yourself!

With that said, I think your bf is only thinking of himself and is selfish!!!!

He's asking you to disrespect you and your family values!

The right guy would not do this!

I think you need to rethink if a relationship with this guy in long-term is wise.

He needs to respect ur parents. If he wants them to like him & get along with them, he needs to understand that's the way it is for now

Tell him that your dad starts to predict the love !!! so you had to go home to avoid doubts

If he not accepting ... Give him a kiss that stays whole night ;)