My boyfriend is very self-conscious about his hair loss?

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So I am in a long distance relationship with a guy I am in love with.  Recently he opened up to me about being self-conscious of his hair loss... I haven't even noticed and we skype/send pictures/etc. regularly.  When i talk about meeting him, he says things like "by that time idk why you'd even want to see me anymore though" and "you might think differently when I'm bald in a year" and he told me he "can hardly even look in the mirror anymore"

I hate that he feels this way about himself... I tell him I love him and it does not make a difference to me and I will always find him attractive but he just does not seem to believe me.  He has said to me "you deserve so much better than me" and every time he says these type of things it makes me cry.  I don't know what to say to him to make him feel better about himself... I have already told him that hair loss is natural and every man goes through it at some point in their lives... I've also asked him if he would love me any less if I lost my hair since women can have thinning hair too... he said he would never love me any less. 

So my question is... how can I make him feel better about himself?What can I say to him? I hate that he is sad all the time because of this, it breaks my heart.

thank you for anyone who can help :)

bv · Accepted Answer

Sweatheart, the only thing you can do is give him your smile, acceptance, love, assurance, etc. When he brings it up, tell him : 'So what honey? I dont care about that. I love you for who you are!' And give him a big smile. Let that brighten up his day. And if it doesnt, seems like he is filled with too much self-pity to see that that you really do not care and that you really do love him. 

You cant make someone see what you see. He can only learn that for himself. Dont blame yourself and know that you cant make him see this, only he can. Only he can learn and love himself, bald or not bald. You can only control yourself so control your reaction to him and make sure you sure you show him you love him nevertheless. The rest is up to him.

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Most individuals suppose is more devastating for a females to lose their hair, but as you've gotten discovered, this isnt always genuine. My dad lost his through chemo (although it grew back thicker and yet another colour after!) and he was once totally bereft on the time, so i will be able to particularly sympathise with you. There isnt a lot that may be finished except love him as you perpetually have and support him via the dangerous days. When my pal had chemo and misplaced his hair, his few close mates shaved their heads and saved their heads shaved until his started developing again. That way, after they went wherever, all of them received stared at, not just him. That obviously helped, however not every person would need to or be capable to try this. My pal also received to the point where is his got so patchy, he just shaved what was once left off anyway. I suppose that prepared him mentally higher, because it used to be anything he had control over. It was once his alternative to shave his tufty bits off, and it ready him higher for when it all in the end went. One other alternative is a few variety of head gear, either hats, or bandanas etc. I wouldnt bother with a wig as they are only itchy anyway, and customarily its quite a bit more unusual seeing any one you might be nearly with a wig than it's seeing them bald. All you can do is love and reassure him, he is aware of it will come again after, its only a making an attempt time in his lifestyles on the moment, however the future will bring his hair back, so fingers crossed it'll be quickly for him. All my love, lozz xx

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