My 3 yr old stepson is acting out?

My first guess would be that he has some sort of social anxiety..

My second guess is that maybe he likes it to be "all about him" but at that age I just don't know if they think like that yet.

Other than that, I really would be unsure as to what to tell you, other than to maybe speak with a pediatric psychiatrist type of a person..

Has he been tested for behavioral disorders, or autism spectrum disorder? This may sound a bit harsh, but in many cases if a three year old is behind the curve on speech, and has behavioral issues, it may not be a case of acting out. It may be something more serious. The earlier you find out and intervene with the proper care the greater the likelihood of a positive outcome for the child and for the rest of the family. Good luck and best wishes.

ALL three year olds do this just once you need to let him know that you are the boss and that his behavior is unacceptable if you have to take him in the bathroom and pull his pants down(if your allowed step-parent) or you can go to a private place and bear hug him till he calms down then you must talk to him in as little words as possible(caveman talk) tell him sternly NO RUN- SIT DOWN.

It may be very inconvenient at first but be consistent and learn the mommy stare down technique.

NEVER NEVER NEVER give in to a child misbehaving. If you do you will be relinquishing control and it will be nearly impossible to get it back. Do not give in just because you are embarassed stay strong. It will pass and you will be shocked one day he will just listen. Good luck!

I'm not a parent myself, I'm only 17, but I'd suggest you get a little mean towards him. Parents in public places will hopefully understand.

Try offering a reward instead. Hold him and get down to his level, and try saying "if you calm down now we can go to mcdonalds or a toystore" or something like that, and if he doesn't calm down in a while then just say "we're going home" and do not give in. My mum did that with us. When we misbehaved and she said "either calm down or we won't go to mcdonalds" and we didn't calm down, we went home. We screamed all the way home but that taught us not to misbehave - we were the same age as your son.

And I agree to take him to get checked out.

But whatever you do, don't give in to his bad behaviour. Stay strong.

get early intervention and get it now, have him tested for an autism spectrum disorder by your doctor.

he's a late bloomer, i was as well, i didn't talk til 4 and a half and i was in therapy since preschool and had the help i needed thanks to my wonderful mother. you need to help him or you will have a child that doesn't talk or speaks one word at a time for the rest of your life.

the understanding you and your husband but acting like he doesn't is a sign of an autism spectrum disorder that could be mild, moderate, or severe. if he's been like that for a while its time for therapy and ASD testing.

that is the only way you get him to talk and you can have control over him, if this has persisted a while now is the time for tests.

i hope this helps.

i don't understand how previous you're, yet once you intend on having infants with this guy, i might look at how he's a confirm to this 25 year previous of his. the region makes me think of that this boy never had limitations and grew up devoid of household projects. it is fairly unhappy that he does not guard his infants, and the place is the mummy?! perhaps the infants might desire to sleep in his room. That way he has no selection yet to guard them. you're in all probability in too deep now, yet i might run run run remote from this loopy difficulty.

Try the time out technique.

1. When he misbehaves, get down to his level and in a firm authoritative voice (without yelling) give him a warning. "You do not (insert behavior). If you (insert behavior) again and you will go in time out."

2. If she does it again, place her on the naughty chair. Get down to her level and explain why he's on the naughty chair. "(Insert name), you are placed on the naughty chair because you (insert behavior) when I asked you to stop. You will stay here for X minutes." 1 minute per year age. 4 year olds gets 4 minutes. 2 year olds get 2 minutes.

3.If he gets up then walk him back without giving him eye contact and reset the timer until he stays there for X minutes. Reset the timer and he will have to do X minutes over again.

4. If she happens to lock herself in a room while getting up from time out, wait until she comes out and once she comes out, immediately place her back in time out.

5. Once X minutes passed, come back, get down to his level and explain why he was placed on the naughty chair, you were placed on the naughty chair because you did not listen to mommy when I asked you to stop (insert behavior). What do you say?" If he does not apologize, he will not get up and he will do the naughty chair again and you repeat the process. Hug your child and never mention this behavior again.

Here are videos on how to do the time out correctly.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2NWl-nWQwE&feature...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvnhniamk_E&feature...