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Need help with my boyfriends son!?
My boyfriend son is 13 and I live with them me and my 4 kids. my kids are all little. He is really mean to me. Im never mean to him. I try to help him and do nice things for him. I tryed to help him to day with his room and I end up crying. I dont know what i can do. He isnt my son so I dont feel right telling him what he can and can't do. I don'tlike him getting mean with my and my kids. I don't always want to be telling my boyfriend that his son is being mean to me and things like that. Im not sure how well this is going to work if his son is always mean to me and wont do a thing I ask. I just ask him to clean his room. I love this kids and my boyfriend. this is the only kid that has ever made me cry. I need some help.
2 Answers
- InvisigothLv 78 years ago
"He isnt my son so I dont feel right telling him what he can and can't do."
if he's a member of your household (even if it's only part time) & you can't even act like the adult in charge when you're alone w/ him then nothing will ever change.
the kid senses your impotence & fills the void by causing you grief. You have to be the responsible adult. You have to take charge of the situation. if you wouldn't tolertate your kids mistreating you then you shouldn't tolerate him mistreating you. Basically, you just need to start treating him like one of your kids. first discuss w/ your BF what you are allowed to do in regards to his son then you tell the son how you expect him to behave & you dole out the pre-agreed consequences & rewards as needed.
- 8 years ago
he feels you are an intruder, it happens with kids, just keep helping him and be good to him and he will recognize this and will be good to you in future...have some patience, this is all too common with kids...
