How do I convince my parents to let me date?

You can tell your parents that their prohibition is having the opposite effect from what they intend. Because forbidden fruit looks more desirable and is harder to resist. The more they prohibit you from dating guys, the more guys become desirable to you, because this is how human psychology normally works.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction...

If your parents aren't careful, then they can ruin your life. Because you might fall so hard in love with a guy that you will make some poor decisions in your life.

You need to just stand up to your parents, and tell them you personally feel mature and responsible enough to start a relationship. Dating is part of the teenage years, and you should be allowed to experience that. You may just have to go against your parent's words if they tell you no. You at an age where you are almost a legal adult, and you should be able to do some of what you want to do.

There is nothing wrong with a 17 year old dating. I am 17, and have been dating since I was 12, and I swear I'm not messed up. Lol. I'm very glad I have those experiences. Your parents have to cut the umbilical cord at some point.

Good luck!

Im also 17 and I never had this problem my parents are a little different but try to have a mature conversation about it with them. Being mature about it might convince them that you are responsible enough to handle having a boyfriend.

Maybe it's the fact that you "really like" this guy that's making them uncomfortable. If they are truly being overprotective there's probably nothing you can do to change their minds. If they are feeling the need to protect you from yourself, there's still probably nothing you can do to change their minds.Trying to change their minds is probably a sign of lack of responsibility in their minds. Maybe showing them that you are responsible enough to accept their decision might sway the way they look at you!!!

I'm 17, too. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16.

Honestly, I'd just try to have a mature discussion with them. Explain to them what you'd do with a boyfriend/what you wouldn't. (like not having sex.) Tell them that you feel emotionally ready and it's an experience you don't want to miss out on. Ask them exactly why they don't want you to.

I hope they understand! If all else fails, when you're 18 you can make your own decisions...

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Quit complaining/stop whining. You're too young to date if you're under the age of 18, and your parents won't be able to stop you from dating from that age on.

The reason I say "stop complaining" is because you only have to wait less than 12 months. You can do it.

So stop whining just because you can't wait under 12 months!

Your old enough but they still don't think so. Their isn't much you can do to convince them it looks like they've already had their minds made up. The only choices you have are to date someone without telling them or just wait until you turn 18. It'd be better to wait until you turn 18 though.

Hi Gladys,

Just casually invite the guy over to watch a movie when both your parents are home. When your parents see you sitting close to him on the couch, they'll immediately know what's happening. Although they might not be happy about it... they won't be too surprised, either. The desire to date is completely normal.

The way the guy acts around your parents will be critical. If the guy introduces himself, gives a firm handshake, makes good eye contact, is a gentleman, is able to engage in polite conversation, keeps his hands in appropriate places, and shows respects for both you and your parents... then perhaps your parents will let him officially start dating you.

If they refuse, then you'll need to respect their decision. In that case, politely ask your Mom to drive both you and the guy to the mall instead as "safe dates".

Please don't try to sneak out or date without permission. Dating behind your parent's back while under their roof, accepting their money, and being loved & supported by them... is like secretly spitting in their soup. That's just plain rude and disrespectful.

The most common problem with sneaking out is that every time you're alone with a particular guy that your parents are unaware of... things tend to go much faster physically (i.e., the guy has no accountability).

Regarding parental restrictions... be aware that your parents know exactly what the hazards are.

The specific reasons for parents being worried about their daughter dating probably includes their knowledge and experience about some of the following issues:

- Because lots of teenage guys tend to be frogs… not princes.

- Because teenage guys will typically want to go way past kissing if the girl allows it.

- Because many teenage girls are simply too vulnerable, too impulsive, and too emotional.

- Because lots of teenage girls frequently have poor judgment.

- Because teenage guys are typically only interested in what's in a young girl's panties.

- Because teenage guys often don't care about a girl's feelings.

- Because the types of teenage guys who are bold enough to be dating are frequently focused solely on satisfying their own selfish desires.

- Because teenage girls tend to equate love with kissing and sex (translation - they get their heart trampled), while most young guys don't (translation - they simply say "See ya later!").

- Because after the inevitable break-up, a teenage girl will likely feel as though her world has collapsed.

- Because any older guy who would date a young and vulnerable teenage girl is a creep.

A few things you might do to convince them to trust you is consistently showing maturity, being helpful, showing good judgment, and telling them what your morals & standards are. Be advised that sneaking out, dating behind their back, arguing, acting spoiled, being immature, acting ungrateful, or engaging in rebellious behavior may result in your parents delaying their permission of your dating.

Note that parents can often pick up on your values even if you don't say anything specific... such as by the kinds of friends you hang around with, and also the kinds of hobbies, books, movies, TV shows, and music you spend time on... but it would help to verbalize your values for them.

What else can you do?

- Tell your parents that you know that some guys can be liars and jerks, and that you won't believe everything a guy whispers into your ears.

- Tell your parents that you plan on keeping your panties on until you get married (and mean it).

- Tell them you know that keeping your virginity will eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players... and mistakes of passion... which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run.

- Offer to get a purity ring to wear, and tell them you want to protect yourself against pregnancy, STD's, and excessive heartache.

- Tell them that you will not engage in any alcohol or drug use.

- Offer to let them meet any guy before you would be allowed to date him.

- Ask them if you've overlooked anything.

- Thank your parents for caring enough about you to set limits.

How can you keep your heart from getting trampled? Keep your panties on until you get married. That'll eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players... and mistakes of passion... which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You'll also be protected against pregnancy, STD's, and excessive heartache.

Final advice? Don't make too many stupid decisions, don't date jerks, don't drink too much booze or take any drugs, don't have friends who drink heavily or take drugs, listen to your Mom and Dad, read the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start), and then everything will turn out fine.

Good luck, Gladys!

Signed, WB

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Tell them that your old enough