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My husband is saying he wants to leave the marriage as of a week ago. This was because of a fight we had, and words were said on my end that I regret, but I can't take back. The day of the fight we were hanging out at home,and he told me he was going to a friends house. He left with an attitude so I called him to ask what was up with that? He hung up on me and we didn't talk till the next day (which got ugly) and have been fighting since. After our big initial blowout, he said he was going to get divorce papers. I thought this would blow over and I would apologize (and never be that mean again) Still not talking, and a few days later that he was REALLY over the fighting and jealousy from me and was done with everything. I keep trying to talk to him and he's still very stuck on leaving. He ended up going and getting those papers, but did not sign them. He lied before he gave them to me and said he did sign them, but when I got them, they were all blank and unsigned. I text him the next day and said that I still love him and I wanna have sex, so I went in his room and we had sex once in the morning and once later that night with almost nothing said. I have been sleeping in our guest room. He says he's really done, but in the beginning of the week I suggested going to a counselor and he set the appt. And says he still plans on going. he's being so cold, but yet he left me a christmas present under our tree during all of this. I got him a gift too but haven't given it to him yet. Im very confused and hurt by all of this. I told him I will go to counseling alone, as well as together to control my sharp tongue towards him and improve our marriage. He also said he will never kick me out of our house, and hasn't taken any real steps toward separation (like our bank acct. and other financial) He's been at his moms house everyday since then. He hasn't told her anything except that we will be going to therapy. Do you think he will really leave me? Or is he bluffing? Either way, this makes for a very lonely (but deserved) christmas. Btw, not the first time I have told him I would go see a therapist for my attitude, but put it off. This time I'm serious though...I have scheduled appts. But cant do anything till after the holidays....my heart is breaking... What does this mean?

This is not the first time we have gotten into huge blow outs because of my mouth. Thats why I say I need to see someone and I am woman enough to admit that.I realise it sounds silly but it is a big deal.