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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 8 years ago

Should i ask out a female co-worker?

Okay, for starters my situation doesn't exactly match the generic scenarios I've come across on the plethora of websites dedicated to this question.

I see this girl occasionally at my work and have had the awesome pleasure of working with her a couple times. When we made small talk, we found some common ground (we both go to college and plan to move east). While attractive, intelligent and sweet, she is introverted and it doesn't sound like she goes out much. I know I've caught her looking at me and flashing smiles, but I'm not sure if that is something special for me or something she "just does".

The details:

I work security and see this girl maybe once a week while on patrol, but I foresee this assignment ending for me so I might never see her again (a curse because I have limited time to pounce, but maybe a blessing if this blows up in my face because I won't have to see her everyday?). I think she knows I've been kinda going out of my way to make these visits.

While I'm not really her supervisor, I do "outrank" her and am on track for a supervisory position, though not exactly one involving supervising her. Its a ten dollar an hour job, so it's not exactly like it's a "dating professionals" environment involving terms like "career choice" and "water cooler gossip".

I already like this girl, enough so that I haven't exactly been on my "A-game" while making my little visits to see her. Hopefully I am not already condemned to the uncomfortable pit where creepy and lame join.

The plan thus far: we both take classes. She's good at math, I'm not. I'm thinking "yeah, I just registered for classes, but this math class is gonna be rough. Say, do you think you could help me out if I get stuck on some of the material. Really? Wow, thanks! Here, let me get your number." Weekend comes, I ask ftext for help "its kind of long to text, maybe I could show you over coffee. My treat for the help".

Whad'ya think? Thanks guys and (hopefully) girls.

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Creepy and lame just joined in!

    Try asking her for coffee when you go on patrol an she has break time.

    Or later after work!

    Or Join for study for math?

    When you do get the chance for coffee ask her some questions.

    Where do you want to be in 5-19 yrs. from now?

    Go on from there.

    And!!!

    Name 3 places you would like to visit...and why?

    Name 3 people living/dead that you would like to talk to...and why?

    Work off from there!

    Ask questions that make people think that you are showing interest in them!!!

    Remember!!! Like the other person 1st.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Let them!!! show you why you should not like them!!!!!!!!!

    LIKE THEM!!!

    SHOW INTEREST IN THEM!!!

    BOTH MEN AND WOMEN!!!!!!!!!

  • 8 years ago

    Definitely yes, you should give it a try!

    Piece of advice from me: be flirty and suggestive (but don't cross borders, of course). If she likes you, she will feel complemented and will flirt back. If she doesn't like you in this way, she will let you know, so you won't waste your time and try to stay friends.

    Good luck!

  • 8 years ago

    Yep. I would. Seems like a good match.

  • 8 years ago

    you can ask out anyone you like, but pick a nice moment to ask (e.g. NOT when she is angry)

    as long as you are not related ask her out, you got nothing to lose

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