My boyfriend gave me the WORST Christmas gift Ive ever received..?

I am not reading that long winded post over a "disappointed" gift.

The fact that you were given any gift should be enough. We do not give "thought out" gifts in hopes that we receive a "thought out" gift. We give a well thought out gift because that's what we want the other person to have.

This kind of expectation is just another example of what is wrong with people / society today and it makes me sick.

Christmas is the celebration of the conception of Christ for some His birth, NOT about what is under a Christmas tree on Christmas day.

I literally relived this exact event just a day ago. My boyfriend hyped up my gift so much. Last year I spend over a hundred dollars on his gift and he spend basically nothing, so I thought this year the tables would turn.

Keep in mind we've been dating for about a year and a half now.

I gave him a record that he really wanted and I cautiously opened his gift, which was very small and flat. I was already afraid of what he had hyped up.

I opened it up. It was a $20 gift card to Panda Express. When he saw the look on my face he was soooo sorry. He kept apologizing over and over and telling me to forget about it and that he'd get me something else. In his mind, there was honestly no chance of me not liking it.

But really?? From my boyfriend?? Does he even know me? And $20?? He always says price doesn't matter because he loves me... but I just wish he was willing to spend a lot on me for such an important day. I KNOW he makes a lot of money at his job. Ugh. This is so upsetting.

I was spending Christmas with my cousins (two girls) and my sister. I had gotten each of them a set of jewelry (a necklace with matching earrings) that I had found for a buy 2 sets get one free sale at Macy's. Each of theses sets probably cost $75 a piece, then they gave my sister a really nice set of heels from my older cousin and a dress from the other. When they gave me my gift, (they gave it together) I had received this crappy mug, and off brand candy inside. That wasn't even the worst part, when I got home I put the mug in the dishwasher, and the next morning I found out that the mug had melted in the dishwasher. I made a vow that day, to never have my hopes up after someone received a gift before me.

To be honest, some people just do not know how to give thoughtful gifts. They don't understand the importance to some people that put alot of thought into a gift. That is just the way they are.

My husband is more a practical person when giving a gift. As much as he thinks he is giving a good gift, in my opinion it lacks originality and thoughtfulness. It is just the way he thinks. I, like you, spend a good deal to find something that is thoughtful and personal. That is the way I think.

Is your boyfriend considerate and thoughtful in other ways? If so, you will just have to learn he may never be a "good" gift giver in your opinion. It may just be his way. If he isn't, then it could be as some others have mentioned - he is self-centered and thoughtless. You probably already know which way he is.

I would talk to him about it. When I first started dating my husband, he got me some really thoughtless, stupid gifts, and I explained to him why that is hurtful. He isn't a jerk; he just didn't know a lot about romance and how important it is to put thought into a gift. It doesn't matter how much they spend, as long as it is well thought out. After I explained, my husband understood that what he was doing was hurtful and began doing more thoughtful things. We had one Valentine's Day where neither of us could afford anything, and we made each other cards. I loved mine because he put so much thought into it. That being said, I think you should talk to him and explain how you feel and what you will expect from him next time. If he isn't receptive to this, then it might be time to move on. Also, wtf is wrong with his family? Kid's pajamas? Really??

There was no need for the paragraphs (not that I mind), because the other answerers are confused as to the problem. You are grateful for receiving a gift and the price isn't a problem, you're just astonished at how inappropriate it is. You didn't expect jewelry and a bouquet of flowers, you would have been fine with something very simple - but that implied at least a hint of care. My father got me a Jersey Shore T-shirt two years ago, and I was absolutely shocked. I've never seen a full episode and I can't stand that type of stuff, I'm more of a Downton Abbey type of person, and frankly, I would have really liked a giftcard to the Walmart he got it from. I got over it fairly quickly though, the poor man was just buying me something that was popular and he thought I would like it.

However, it's one thing for parents to be out of touch with their teens, but for your boyfriend to not know you at all is really crappy. You're not ungrateful, you just feel lonely and bewildered. I don't know if he's the one . . .

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Well, as somebody who isn't too knowledgeable in this field, I'll try my best: I think you are upset about the thought that he put into it. In this case it was probably no thought. As you go about life, you will find some people are more thoughtful than others. In your case, he proved to you that he is one of those who are not thoughtful. You are basically incompatible in such a very serious area, so I would just let him go. Well I hope this answers your question.

Well, this answer might not be what you're looking for but here it goes: If its not about the gift why did you mention "cheap"? Anyway I think the gift was thoughtless. You need to tell him how you feel. That's it, tell him. If y'all can't be open then y'all don't really gave a relationship. This is from a guys point of view. Please answer mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;%E2%80%A6 I'm now off to audition for a role as a office lemming. wish me luck y'all!

Stop expecting so much. You got your boyfriend and his family thoughtful gifts why? Because you wanted to? Because you wanted them to feel special? Or because you wanted the same in return? How were they to know of your expectations? So you got some c rappy pajamas... Donate them to Goodwill or a family having money troubles. If you don't like anything from Hot Topic, donate the gift cards too. There are so many people out there with nothing.

I think you're so disappointed by it because you expected better from him. And now you've discovered his careless and greedy ways, and you don't like that in people. It may be a sign that he's not the boyfriend for you. All these things make up people. You obviously like something about him, but if this is important to you (and it would be to me too), you should consider dumping him. Find someone who really cares about you and wants to show they care.