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Why don't I feel terrible about cussing at my mother?

To begin with, I really want pet hermit crabs. Second, instead of one big present for christmas, my Mom and I went shopping for clothes.

I received money for christmas, and I wanted to use some of it to purchase a tank. Nothing else, because my mother had always said I would kill it, and she'd end up taking care of it, and stuff along those lines.

So my mother says that she and dad had talked it over, and absolutely no way, will we allow you to have pets. I don't know why it upset me so much, but I immediately ask "why not!" in what I assume was a very whiny voice. I start crying a little, it happens when I'm angry.

She says I'm failing government (I am, but I finally turned in all my homework. At the moment, I can't bring it up any further.), my room's a disaster (It is), and I'm not responsible enough.

Then, my mother left the room. There was no fighting, no screaming, no cussing. I always take a couple minutes to stop being angry, so I stay on the couch, frowning.

She then comes back, asks me if this is going to be a problem all day. I say no, and we spend the day mostly avoiding each other.

The rest of the day is decent.

So this evening, I'm in the kitchen putting on the new watch I got for Christmas. Mom comes in and tells me she had a "vision" right before the holidays. A moment of clarity. She would go shopping with me, spending a lot of money, only for me to be awful and selfish towards her after christmas.

She continues, calling me a horrible b*itch, who was really b*itchy towards her, who didn't cared if she had died (she had cancer a couple years ago), who was a selfish *sshole, etc.

Eventually, I told her "F*ck you".

I thought she was going to slap me.

She should have slapped me.

That was the first time I ever cussed at my mother. I hate that I did it, but I don't regret it, And I don't feel sorry.

Am I a terrible person?

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  • 8 years ago
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    You know, your mom was wrong to rail on you like that, but that was raw to say that to your mom. Yes, you should feel bad. It sounds like you don't take care of the basic things that your parents are asking of you (i.e., doing your school work and getting good grades and keeping your room clean). Sounds like you have a lot of maturing to do, and to understand that you don't automatically deserve anything, you have to EARN it.

    Your mom was wrong for calling you names, but could it be that you are selfish? You should apologize to your mother for swearing at her, and you need to think about what kind of person you are and who you want to be.

  • 5 years ago

    I had this unique same thing once I was once more youthful around 25 -30. I stopped doing it with practice. It took a whilst but eventually it worked. The article that helped me essentially the most used to be an notion I learn in booklet, I cannot bear in mind the guide but the suggestion was once. There's a area in time between what you suppose and what you do. Dropping it occurs while you do not use the small spece in time to control what you do next. Once I made up my intellect that I had to manipulate it, that's when the tough work started. Whenever i might lose it and get indignant with my youngsters, i would attempt to manage it. Repeatedly it labored and in many instances it did not. If it did not work that time, as soon as I calmed down i would make an apology to my children,that i am making an attempt fairly difficult to stop yelling and hope i will do better in future. After about 6 - twelve months of this, the instances I lost manage was once just about zero. Now i have not lost manipulate for approximately 5 years. Our apartment is much calmer. We speak matters over rather of yelling at all times. We still have arguments but they're much quieter and we recognize each others opinions. Of path, the youngsters have gotten older too which helps. Don't suppose nugatory. Congratulate your self for realising that you simply have got to be taught the best way to manipulate this and then just begin studying. You'll still forget many times but the more you observe the simpler it is going to get.

  • Alice
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    Your mom seems to have trouble saying "no" to you and just leaving it at that. Probably she feels a bit guilty about not allowing you to have a pet, but she does NOT want you to have pets, and it seems she is determined to stick to that position. I am not saying she is right or wrong, it is her decision to make. She should just let it go at that, though, and not try to justify it or talk around it.

    So, maybe both of you could learn how to communicate more effectively and without so much drama.

  • 8 years ago

    You're not a terrible person, but you may want to reconsider your morals. This action doesn't make you who you are. its just a bad decision that you made. But honestly, knowing that i don't think i would respect you much. You probably don't feel terrible because you don't have that much respect for her. If you really respected her you wouldn't have done it in the first place. Or maybe you just weren't raised to have much respect for your mother.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    tell your sorry

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