How can I talk to my neighbor?

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I've developed a little crush on one of my next door neighbors. I am in my early twenties and he's in his late twenties. Occasionally, I see him in front of his house and we always say hello and have the casual conversation but it never goes anywhere. I don't think he has a girlfriend but according to Facebook, he has a lot of pretty girls as friends. I have very high standards when it comes to guys so its rare that I see one who is interesting enough. He has a couple of roomates but sometimes I see him in his house alone and I always want an excuse to go over there and ask him some neighborly thing but I never find one. I don't want to invite him to my house, since I live with my parents and its kinda embarrassing. He's a musician so that's the only thing I can think to talk about but I wouldn't know what to say. Its crazy I feel like a teenager around him because I feel so nervous, I don't think I can just ask him out. (If he were to say no, I couldn't live with that awkwardness every time we would see each other) Anyone have any suggestions?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Anytime a party or some type of event comes up, just casually invite him along. It isn't weird to do that.

EDIT -

@ B. - You sure make a lot of assumptions based on him being a musician. Not every musician is a wild party person who has sex with underaged women and does massive quantities of coke. Could just be like...you know...a nice guy who plays an acoustic guitar and sings romantic songs about love or something. You really have no idea, so just stop, because you sound incredibly judgmental.

B. · Answer

He is a musician and he has girls fling themselves at him every time he is on stage.  You are the little girl next door who still lives with her parents.  Why would you want to be with a guy who is constantly tempted by other women who you would have to compete with every day?  It makes for an exciting fantasy, but you are way out of your league.  Just continue to share polite words when you see him but look for a guy with some stability and integrity.

? · Answer

Invite him over whenever you have a get-together at your house like a BBQ or something...

Cali surf girl · Answer

You could buy the instrument he plays and ask if he could help teach you? Or break something 'accidentally' ;) and ask him if he can fix it for you. Just try talk to him about stuff and flirt a little.

EscvvRt0 · Answer

Make some food (sweets, cake, cookies etc) and offer it to him saying you made too much and had some extra.

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