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How do I move on when the breakup was all my fault?

I was a bad girlfriend from the beginning. When people wants to recover from a breakup, people tell them that "the breaker was a jerk, he didn't deserve you, he didn't really love you, he will regret it..." etc. But actually I regret being so cold and not doing some things that would have made him feel more loved and confident. He did everything he could for me but I didn't reciprocate. He met someone else, you know, better looking than me, but also more loving and committed for a relationship, and he dumped me for his new girlfriend. But he's not the jerk, I am the jerk.

How can I feel better, stop blaming myself every single day...?! I feel like I don't deserve to be loved and be happy :(

Update:

Well, he didn't really dump me since we were kind of "taking a break", so he was free .Also, for the last months we had been in a long distance relationship, which made it harder. He said he begged, did his best for me and tried so hard to make this relationship work but seemingly his efforts weren't working, so he had to give up.

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  • 8 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Just acknowledge what you did wrong (which you're already doing very well), and be confident in knowing that you now know what NOT to do in your next relationship. You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders. Any breakup is tough, whether you or your partner caused it, so just know that what you're feeling is totally normal, and just something you have to work through.

    And there's no reason you shouldn't deserve to be loved and happy - you do! You made a mistake (which everyone does!) and now you know better.

    Feel better, dear! Small comfort, I know, but you DO deserve to be loved, and you DO deserve to be in a great relationship someday.

  • 8 years ago

    Well I have a sister she went threw the same thing at age 15 so well this is what she did I'm sorry if this doesn't work out sooooo she talks to him and gets to be his friends and you know a couple pick up lines she also once set him up.

    I would tell him " I was wrong I am realy sorry I won't make it happen again " those are my most dream lines that would be if your a jealous type my sisters not so you pick :)

    Source(s): Experience
  • 8 years ago

    honey its hard i went thro the same..u dont wanna hear this but it gets better in time...we all have regrets and mistakes..and stop blaming ur self..maybe he wasnt perfect as u think..thik of the things he did that hurt u+he dumped u for another person thats so stupid from him and doesnt look like hes the good guy here..stop it..yea u treated him bad but u didn't give up or dumped him...just get to know new ppl...

  • 8 years ago

    Life is full of tests.. We meet people to teach them something or to get taught something, we are not perfect, actually far from it! Make sure that you learn that lesson, it will do you good for your next relationship.

    All the best

    Source(s): Life experience
  • kerby
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    This guy has replaced his ideas approximately going out with you and has made excuses for no longer doing so. If its considering you refused intercourse with him hes no longer likely to return top out and say that. you're too youthful to be doing sexual issues with him and in line with risk he thought so too. Who is acquainted with? i assume you may say hi casually yet once you do to any extent further than that he will think of you're giving him a come on. attempt to provide up thinking of him in case you am i able to think of you have a crush on him yet he's after intercourse - stay away thats my opinion. you will recover from it after a mutually as.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    These things happen and we all make mistakes. Make sure you learn from your mistakes and don't let the same thing happen again. Its not like he his tormenting you, he has moved on so you should to :-)

  • ?
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    don't blame it on yourself. you showed less affection that does not mean that you don't like him, if he could not understand then its good you two are not together, you can move on as he was a jerk. a non-understanding person.

  • 8 years ago

    learning from it and knowing that it was wrong at the end your human were not perfect we all make small or big mistakes

  • 8 years ago

    VODKA

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