What do you think of a black woman who says this to her black daughter?

I would think of her as self hating black woman with issues. It's very obvious that she has slave mentality. You can see that inferiority complex has been passed down from generation to generation in the African American community. I find it very sad that she endures so much self hatred. Your mother and sister really need to get some pride about themselves. Despite being multiracial they're always going to viewed as black women in America. Look at me I'm mixed with Black, Egyptian, and Iranian. I'm embracing my cultural heritage but I'm still viewed and treated as a black man. There is nothing wrong with being black. It's real good to see that you're breaking the cycle of self hatred. This shows how much love you have for yourself. It's fine to date outside of your race but make sure you love a men for his personality. I wish you the best of luck in your decisions.

My Dad is a non-white as well, who is very white washed... It's annoying, way too annoying. My dad makes a lot of negative comments about his race, which I am part. Anyway, when I was younger I was racist towards that race because of him saying that my whole life, but now I'm conscious, have been for like 2 years, i just ignore his comments, and ain't a little bit racist.

Anyway, what I'm saying is, if you're self aware, and you are, then just ignore there comments. They will always hurt inside, but don't let em get to you either.

Marry who you end up loving, if you focus on race, you will not ever be in a good relationship.

Well that's the problem that comes when we "don't focus on race". Why? Well this society is promoting negative stereotypes and ideas about black people and selling it to our children. Notice that no one criticized the user Bane who answered and directly insulted black men. Why? Because we are taught to protect ourselves alone and not anyone else...even if we know that it's hurtful to others.

As a black man, I adore black women and I prefer them above every race. And so do 90% of black men. In spite of what the media teaches, black women are well educated, hard working, classy, supportive, unselfish, very intelligent and beautiful.

Okay, back to the question. The reason your mother said that wasn't because she was looking down on black men specially...though she obviously has a negative view of us. What I think she believes is the stereotype that all black men are poor and as a very attractive black woman she feels that you can capture the heart of a white man, all of whom she believes to be wealthy / rich. Then it will be like the classic Cinderella story where the poor, beautiful girl is moved from poverty among a low class race to the "palace" where her white prince lives.

Yes, this is a racist view, I believe and also one that was taught and promoted by this society's mainstream. I think that comment sounded very sad, embarrassing and disgusting because she has black daughters who are being mentally hurt by these views. In addition, you likely have black male family members and that puts a negative light on them while promoting the idea that white men are superior.

I dislike what she said. And I can see why it bothered you. The problem I have is why you didn't say anything. That's how people change, when those who have a better understanding or a clearer / less racist perspective stand up and demand that views like these be left in the past. This country's bill of rights says that all people are equal, and not only do black men deserve happiness, so do black women. We all deserve not to be stereotyped and judged by the worst among us, just like white men and women wouldn't like to be linked to Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Bernie Madoff, etc.

I don't believe ANY of the stereotypes about black women. Why? Because they are just that...stereotypes--false ideas based on a few negative qualities or individuals. So why would your mother believe the negative stereotypes about black men when there are people like Dwyane Wade, Antonio McDyess, Isaiah Washington, Courtney B. Vance, Aaron Ross and Denzel Washington who not only are very wealthy black individuals, but they are also married to or are dating black women. Furthermore, there are black male doctors, police officers, CEOs, executives, financial advisers, bankers, managers, coaches, company presidents, bodyguards and more who are rich and who also love, care for and respect black women. So she was wrong for saying that. And this is why we need black leaders and black mentors to help us raise our self esteem as a community so that we can teach our children better values.

She should be kicked in the face and have her kid taken from her because that's mental abuse. You don't raise a child to have racial hatred, especially against people who share the same DNA as her. Your mom is complete trash, and I'm sorry you have to live with her and breathe the same air as her. Date and marry who you want, White, Black or Brown.

... Umm

Well what I think is that I have a low opinion of her, for her to assume that a Black man can't rise above and be a successful man for his wife and future family. End of the day, regardless of how your mother feels, be with who makes you happy, that's all you can do, if he's White, so be it

In this section people always talk about self-hating black women.

As a white man I've never notices this.

Never in my life have I met a black woman that went ballistic over other races.

White men and black women we are known for staying within our race.

Black men are the ones known as self-haters. In real life.

Black men are known for being obsessed with other races.

I don't know maybe because I'm not black the reason I've never notice.

Shallow and ignorant, I'm sorry. Anyone who says that is racially biased and ignorant.

My mom said that I didn't seem like the type of girl that would be with a black man. What that means, I don't honestly know, but she did say that I was too "eccentric" for a black guy. Weird...

Expecting her son-in-law (or your future husband) to be rich is bad enough.

But expecting him to be white is even more pathetic because it shows she had low self-steem and also that she is shallow for associating race with status....

That's horrible who cares if he's black or white rich or poor all that matters if you love that person

That's f'd up.

Tell her that white guys aren't looking to be too mentally stable these days. *cough*