How do I deal with my mother's past in a therapeutic way?

Nobody should have to endure such a horrible thing but it happens all too often.

This calls for a two-step approach:

1. She probably has hatred toward Grandma's former BF and maybe even toward

Grandma herself, even tho she's dead. Mom is still suffering from the abuse. Many women

don't survive it - mentally or emotionally. You still has stress; her body and mind are trying to

cope but ... it's hard. The fact that she told you means she's crying out for help.

She could have anxiety, depression or even a chemical imbalance in her brain which is

very common and nothing to be ashamed about.

She needs a therapist who can prescribe appropriate medications to help her get better.

With the right meds, you will be much better and feel normal. And someday - yes, even

forgive that rat. What you don't forgive, festers in your heart forever.

You won’t get well by yourself and, by ignoring it, it will only get worse.

2. But therapy and meds can do only so much. God is the ONLY one who knows what you’re thinking, how you’ve struggled and what you’re going thru. He loves you passionately and wants to be your BFF. He has a super-deluxe custom-made plan for your life that’s beyond anything you ever dreamed of.

BUT He waits for us to ask. Invite Him into your heart, ask Him to take over your life. You will instantly feel better. You are His special masterpiece. He planned for you before He even created the universe.

Watch Him ease the stress and give you peace in it's place. He is on YOUR side. He never stops thinking about you. His thoughts toward you are more than the grains of sand on the beach (Psalm 139). He loves you more than you can possibly imagine!

Find a big happy church and join some groups. Take her with you; some churches have

survivor's groups. Get a bible that’s easy to read (New King James is good) and read it every day. Find Christian support groups. Watch Christian programs like Joel Osteen, 700 Club, Daystar, TBN TV. Read Christian books, watch Christian DVDs.

All the above and churches also have wonderful counselors that can help you.

There's so much fascinating information to learn. Jesus loves you more than you can possibly imagine. You’ll have fun and the rest of your life will be the very best of your life.

Since the bible is the best-selling book of all time, nobody can claim to have even

a basic education without having read and studied it.

I hope this helps; it sure made a huge difference for me :)

They who seek The Lord shall not lack any good thing. Ps. 34:10

Delight yourself in the LORD and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, And He shall bring it to pass. Ps 37:4-6

Pour out your heart to Him (Ps 62:8) Nothing you say will shock or surprise God.

"No one has seen, heard or even imagined the things that God has prepared for those who love Him." 1 cor 2:9 WOW!

Ur mom is suffering ptsd from the abuse. She needs to get therapy or read about ptsd and see what others who have been traumatized use for coping ..maybe knowing that you are safe because of her misfortune

Might be helpful for her to hear..u can only suggest ..u do not need to hear the details.u are not a therapist ..

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