my son's girlfriend has NO respect for anyone?

It's his love life, let him do what he wants. You sound a little invasive. He's almost an adult, remember. I mean, not every parent gets the (possible) daughter/son-in-law they want, but jeez, he can sort out his own love problems. I think if she's that bad, he'll mature and see it, OR she'll mature and become a nicer person! Or it could possibly be that you have only seen your side of the story and that when she's with your son she's really sweet. I don't know.

But ew, she was 14 when she dated your 17 year old son? That's basically a middle schooler dating a senior in highschool.

Sorry I have a brother too and he made some poor choices with someone so malicious she targeted him and uses his child as a weapon. You know the more you push the more she will be waiting to mind f him into thinking his family just wants him miserable just try and bring him around other girls you could always send him to be a counselor at a summer camp YMCA its strict you can't leave only on Sundays it is something to think about call ahead and try to set that up as for now you need to send him to stay elsewhere if she's that toxic.

It is a tough choice. But I think that you should talk to her dad and see if you guys can find some common ground, and maybe you can get him to talk to your gf's son about the issue saying that he prolly respects him more. But otherwise if you cannot get this issues fixed that you should just tell your gf about how you cannot take it anymore and just end the relationship.

Maybe your son like the dominant type of women but if she is not being respectful to the people in her surrounding then imagine if she gas a kid with him..... I think the best thing to do is hav a very nice talk with him and try to make him understand that he deserves better.... But for a fact i know that she sounds like a control freak and it will not be easy to get rid of her

Let him find out the hard way.the more you make it difficult for her to be around,she'll just blame her behaviour on you not being supportive of her and your son and your son will believe her.i know it's hard to do but you have to let her crush his heart which she will do all by herself.maybe use examples of his friends that are doing better and are happier than him to make him jealous of their young single fun lives and I'm sure that will motivate or make up a fake story how you got hard done by when you were a teenager by someone who was bad but at the time you wouldn't listen to anyone,thought it was forever etc...then he could identify and not just think you're being horrible (teenagers always think they know it all and that parents are just being cruel punishers)

Talk to your son! Tell him that the girl is using him and he'll regret it sooner or later. As for the girl, she deserves a slap on the face!! Don't worry, if your son doesn't follow your advice, let him be. Sooner or later he'll realize he has made a big mistake ignoring your advice. He'll come back to you, trust me.

I'm not going to give you a stupid remark I am going to set your straight: It's his life, not yours, he didn't ask to be born, you decided that for him, you decide who you wanted to marry, why can't he? Sounds to me like you think you son belongs to you, like he is a possession of some kind, everything is not about you, stop being selfish and love your son like a good mother should. love is unconditional, if your love has conditions then he's better off leaving you and your husband to be miserable with each other alone by yourselves and he should go off and have a good life with you not in it causing him grief. all the time about his girlfriend.

p.s. if you talked about my girlfriend like that I wouldn't expect her to have any respect for you either.

He has to see that for himself. He's blinded by "love" and if you do anything more he might end up alienating you. Love is a mysterious thing, only two people who are experiencing it know what they see in each other. I think you should leave him to make his mistakes. He'll appreciate it someday.