how can i stop feeling so ugly even if people tell me i'm not?

Welcome to the world of being a teenager. It sucks, doesn't it?

You are right, it is a mental block. When you deny a compliment, you are reflecting your negativity and insecurity onto the world, which is not very attractive. It also sounds like you have some trust issues when it comes to men, which is okay: I have also had issues with men, which caused me to make some bad choices in my own love life: Bad choices I embrace.

This is all normal. We're human. We must fail, often, so that we can learn. Even if you think you're a complete failure now, and your life is ruined, just remember: This part of your life is temporary, the feelings you are experiencing will disipate with time, and you will learn to love yourself, flaws and all.

Do yourself a favor:

Next time someone compliments you, just say, "Thank you." Don't oversell it, don't offer a compliment back unless you mean it, don't give them a weird face, just take it. If you feel awkward afterwards, fight the urge to 'correct' that person and act rude, and just politely excuse yourself and walk away. Repitition is key. You will fail 9/10 times at first, but that one time you succeed in accepting that compliment will make you feel good. You don't have to believe what they say, but if you begin with such a simple step to begin to accept other people's opinions, you will be on your way to self-confidence.

I had the same problem throughout high school. Little older now. I built myself up on my own. I done things that made me feel good. It doesn't help if someone else tells you that you are beautiful...what matters is how you feel about yourself. I seen a therapist and all that in high school...it was a waste of time. I never went on any meds they prescribed. I continued to do things to make me love myself. I don't know anything about you so i can't tell you what to try. But for me, it was about doing something big. I joined the service when i graduated and graduated basic training and school in the top of my class. That helped some. Still this was not enough for me. So then I got a job at the hospital once I was outta the service. I loved helping others. This made me feel good about myself. I not only help others but they help me in that I do what I love. So I worked for a year and decided on nursing school. I graduate nursing school in May. So doing things for me has helped me. To me, if someone thinks I'm pretty, so what. I don't take compliments well still but it's because "being pretty/beautiful" is not what it's about. It's what's inside me, what I have become that I see as beautiful and unique. So unless someone notices that, I usually don't give them the time of day. I don't think it's a bad thing either...anyone can tell you your pretty, but it takes someone really noticing you to tell you what you really are and about. Hope this helps. I get carried away when I answer.

This is the thing. Uve made your mind to believe your ugly over a long period of time so the only thing your brain knows is that. So even when one tells you your georgeous, your brain isnt familiar to that.

It feels as if its being lied to, coz uve taught it otherwise.

Now for you to accept that your beautiful, you have to do this. Go to the mirror, imagine a voice telling you this, What do you see on a sincere opinion?A very gorgeous lady that everyone would want to have its just that you shy about it. Your a sight to behold thats why (the voice) is deeply in love with you. Then just telling yourself "Damn, i look hot in this dress", "wow, i look stunning in this pants" etc

Start imagining of how attractive you would like in a certain dress, clothing etc and slowly your mind will accept that. Then when someone tells you your georgeous, tell yourself "wow, he must be really right. I really am beautiful" Then smile to yourself about it. DO this everyday and you will see the magic i swear :)

Well...

If you hate compliments, compliments then don't suit you well. Tell them to piss off and move on. See, you have a whole different set of buttons that others need to figure out how to push. Right now, your self-esteem is not so high; so joining a military service might help instill in you discipline, self-esteem, confidence, capabilities, and more. In fact, I am considering military service.

Or, you could run, exercise, work out. That always releases the endorphins that keeps you happy. If it helps your mood some, keep pushing at it. You'll receive the highest buzz at one point in your life where all the worries goes away. It has happened to me many many times every time I go out for a run.

If you don't believe guys who say it, then you need a guy who DOES SOMETHING to show you that you are without telling you. If I came up to you and told you you're hot, then you'd tell me to piss off. You know what, I'd gladly take that and move on. But, if I were to grab you, pull you in, and start kissing you in front of everyone (supposedly if you knew me) without telling you anything, would that have ever mattered or made a significant change in your life?

You need to start reading the book by Gary Chapman, the Five Languages of Love. Read it all, gauge your answers on the cheat sheet, measure it, and then find one or two qualities that defines your love language. Chances are that your love language isn't receiving compliments. It may be something else.

For instance, my two qualities (yes two; most people take only one quality while some has a lucky fortune of having two) are Quality Time and Touch. Quality Time is where I value spending time with family and friends. This is how I'm loved. I like to hang out with these people and I feel better, more loved that way. But Quality Time is second to Touch. Touch isn't sexual by the way. If you were my woman and came up to me to give me an unexpected hug, or sitting next to me and rubbing my shoulders with your hand, it does a massive dose for me. It helps boost my self-esteem, makes me feel loved, and I feel better.

You really should read that book because who you are is not who other people should be. You have a whole different set that requires being loved in a far different way. Consider yourself lucky because most girls are loved by being given compliments and that can drive them off the cliff by having promiscuous sex and then regretting it. That's why in today's age, most girls NEED to be careful, think, and start focusing on what their love languages are, define who their husbands are, and NEVER SETTLE FOR ANY LESS! :)

Good luck!

I actually have this same problem. People tell me I'm pretty, but I don't feel this way. When I put make up on (Not a lot, I keep it natural) I feel better. Or when I make an effort with my outfits. Also I started running. Not cos I'm fat, or anything, it just let's me clear my head. Exercise is good for you, like it litterly releases bad toxins and negative chemicals, so I feel better afterwords. And I only jog for about 30 min, nothing hardcore. I also bought these yoga videos, Giam. They are very relaxing, good for the brain and soul :)

practice it with a friend. have them give you a compliment while you say nothing or thank you. keep practicing it until you're able to respond politely to a compliment.

Don't look in the mirror.