Male crossdresser..am i bi?

You need to join the Navy.

"So I have a girlfriend and we're sexually active, i'm only attracted to girls and I know I never ever want to date a male (The thought of kissing a guy turns my stomach)"

attraction is one of the main signs of ones orientation so from this line alone your straight

"Like i really like the idea of performing oral sex on a male and having anal sex while crossdressed of course..i don't know what I am. If i just want to act as a female and have a submissive experience"

err...maybe bi curious

You are a straight crossdresser, which from what I understand is what most crossdressers are. Crossdressing, as others pointed out, does not dictate your sexual preference, it's more a tension/stress reliever, a way to get away from the demands society puts on males to perform as males.

Your "fantasy" is actually quite common among straight crossdressers, it's the "guy treats me like a real woman and I get to experience the whole enchlada" fantasy, which ranges from a blind date at a party in which you wear a sexy, feminine dress and high heels, to the formal date where a guy in a tux picks you up in a formal gown, you have dinner at a fancy restaurant, dancing and then back to his place where it ends in blissful sexual activity where you're on the recieving end to the wedding gown fantasy (where you take the place of the bride).

My guess is that you've never been "out" in public while dressed and are unsure if you would "pass". If you and your girlfriend are sexually active (protected or not), then you need to have a communication pause with her regarding your crossdressing. Better she freak now than later after you've popped the question. She may be totally against it, or she may be interested enough to help you dress and look the part. Of course there's the entire gray area between these two extremes that she may fall as well, so don't expect the moon.

Main thing is that you are straight, you are interested in her (sexually and actually) and you're not interested in a sex change operation (crossdressers and transsexuals are two different animals) but that you have a desire to dress feminine from time to time as a way of reliving stress and tension. Up to 10% of the male population may be crossdressers or have a fetish for women's clothing. (this would include those males who wear panties, thongs, stockings or lingerie under their clothes)

Society views the feminine AS submissive, thus your percieved desire to "have a submissive experience". What society doesn't realize (and most crossdressers do) is that wearing high heels is murder on the feet, throws off the body balance and forces one to shorten their stride to keep from going head over heels. Add to the fact that women's clothing is more expensive, changes from season to season and keeping your nails intact is a juggling act worthy of the circus. Makeup is outrageous, wigs expensive and having to carry a purse filled with other peoples "things" that they don't have room for in their pockets is one heck of an imposition.

Then again, the feel of a flowing dress across your skin as your hair blows in the breeze and your heels click on the ground is pretty neat and invigorating too. Having someone to share that with you is out of this world!

The vast majority of cross-dressers are normal, healthy, heterosexual males with a simple fetish. It's hard-wired in the brain. When you feminize yourself your brain interprets it as contact with a woman and releases dopamine and other neurotransmitters which produce the sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and bonding. It affects the reward centers of your brain, instant gratification and thus, it mimics the addiction response.

It may be related to your testosterone too. It usually begins at puberty when your testosterone levels go up. When you get old and your testosterone levels drop, so does your desire to cross-dress.

Following orgasm your dopamine levels drop and your prolactin levels go up. This means that immediately after your masturbate you will not experience the high from cross-dressing.

Generally to keep your dopamine levels high you find yourself taking greater risks and taking your cross-dressing to new extremes. That is why you are developing fantasies about oral sex with a male.

So what do most psychologists say about this behavior? Well the text book for this is the DSM-IV. This fetishism has been described only in heterosexual men. There it is regarded as a problem when a psychiatric diagnosis of "transvestic fetishism" is made: This occurs when cross-dressing causes significant distress and impairs you socially, either at work or elsewhere.

The solution is to set your own limits and stick to them. Keep your cross-dressing limited and under control. Remember it mimics the addiction response, so you have to respect it, and keep it under control. I suggest you just limit your cross-dressing to sleepwear, and use the daytime as transvestite free.

just being a cross dresser i would say that you are str8. There are str8 cross dressers. They have a club in toronto here. for str8 men and their wives. or they used to have one any way. i use to live around the corner from it. But i have NOT live there for a few years now

but the other stuff you have on here. Well then you might be BI

but just for being a cross dresser ONLY you could be STR8. I hear that MOST cross dressers are STR8

GOOD LUCK

i would say there is some room for homosexuality to start coming through at some point, its almost like you know its wrong so you have made a person in your head in which it is acceptable to do things like that. like that other person will do the things you wont.