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I missed Bar Mitzvah I was invited to?
My coworker who was becoming my friend invited me to his daughters bar mitzvah and said it was at 9. I assumed he meant 9pm but in fact it happened that day at 9am. I never was given a formal invitation, not that it is an excuse, but I came to his home around 9pm and i apologized profusely and insisted on giving the gift for his daughter. He looked so pissed but he stayed calm and short. I know this is bad but does how bad of an insult is this? And how can I go about making this right? I need to make this right and I'll do anything.
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- marys.mommaLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
He probably acted annoyed because he was tired after a full day of being with friends and family. Some relatives are pretty hard to take for any length of time.
You did what you could by apologizing profusely. You probably didn't realize that a Bat Mitzvah (not "Bar Mitzvah", that's for a boy) is a religious occasion, followed later by a party or reception. It's kind of like a wedding in that respect.
On his part, he should have made it more clear about the time, so part of his problem was that he was embarrassed about that.
- KaiLv 78 years ago
Bar Mitzvah are for 13 years old children--it would not be held at 9pm because usually there are bunch of kids getting the honor, and there's usually a celebration after and people don't want their youngsters up too late. You could have done the research to find this out. You could have asked too when you were invited considering it's a celebration for young teens. Just give it time, your friend may not forgive you for missing that auspicious occasion but he'll find that your not being there doesn't change anything one way or the other and you did apologize, and you did have a gift for the child. And it's "bas mitzvah" for girls.
