Am I a coward? Please answer honestly?

I take it you are a male. There is a natural instinct in the male psyche to protect females, and to defend their honor, as well as your own.

There is a book called the Art of War, by Sun Tzu. A Chinese master of war. Find it and read it. It was written many centuries ago, but still revalent today. I'm paraphrasing here. When faced with an overwhelming force, as you were, evade. Fight when the terms are equal, or in your favor. Don't let your pride, or ego get you a nasty beating, you have proved nothing. The time will come when the battle ground will be in your favor. That's when to strike, if you feel it is still necessary. All conflicts can be won without violence, it's just being smart enough to know how. That takes observance, and experience.

You'll get it. And no you are not a coward, just smarter then the a**hole, and more class.

yes you are, and everyone here massaging your ego saying you are 'mature' is pathetic.

If someone bullies you, and yes you were bullied.

You stand up for yourself and stop yourself from becoming a little *****, if you don't learn to stand up for yourself people will bully you all your life.

All you had to do was say something like:

"just because we don't want yours" or if you're male " yeah it's true your mum does love our penises, how did you know? :o "

You could have just said: " Shut the fck up you ****** "

The possibilities were endless :)

All you have to do is act, don't think about it so much and just do.

It's not hard, it simply seems hard as you've never done it before, you are used to following the same pattern, you are young you can brake out of it easily, your brain is still developing while you're young.

I think your body's instinctual reaction of stopping you from provoking these people is an excellent thing First off, no good comes of violence, so if you intend to do anything a physical reaction would not be recommended.

From experience I'd say the best thing to do in these situations is ignore the person. Freeze your facial expressions and tense your body , turn away in a cold shoulder type of reaction, dont sink to the low level of kicking someone, no matter how much of a douche they are.

You aren't a coward. Im glad you didnt react with violence.

I would react here by doing as i said, stiffening body and face, turning away, but thats because such a person would be both pitiful and irritating to me. I'd shake it off as an irksome thing, but never want to react with violence.

You didnt need to attack the person as if in defense of their 'attack''. dont try and reason with arbitrary rude people just ignore them. Figure that they have personal issues that are causing them to get stressed and lashed out; understand that and try to have compassion for a second before moving on. The less of a reaction you have, the less satisfying it is for them. The less satisfying, the less likely they are to continue. This behavior will save both you and any future possible people they try to harass the trouble

I am very proud of you for controlling yourself! You are not the coward, the bully is the coward. You know what works with people who use physical means as an outlet, use words to corner them. Bullies are usually helpless with words and their hands and legs usually moves faster then their brain. Try sometime sarcastic to them. FInd out what they objective is. If it is to embarrass you, DONT be embarrassed! If he wants to make you angry, dont be. Say why thank you.. or hey without a penis, you wont be born...

BE STRONG, BE WISE, BE BRAVE.

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Be mature and take the high road. No sense getting arrested for assaulting someone or getting your *** kicked. Learn to ignore this bully. If you ignore him, he will let you alone after a awhile. If he knows that he is pushing your buttons, he will keep coming back. A bigger man walks away when he can.

No, no, no Lasha - coward is what you ARE NOT it takes great wisdom and foresight to not react; it is the unwise ones who hit back because all that does, is cause more bullying! No what you did was the right thing to do and that was: listening to your conscious, so please, feel flipping proud of yourself - certainly not the opposite!

It is a misnomber that one should hit back!!!

Anybody can lash out in rage, thats the cowardly thing to do (oddly enough). To ignore such idiotic comments and rise above it takes much more courage.