Dating a man that is 13 years older??

I don't understand why you're still with this guy. He's a little too old for you to begin with. If you were 30, already had kids and he was 43 it would be different. But it's not like that. You both want different things. He's lied to you and lead you on. In the beginning he said he was ok with having more kids, then when you became pregnant, he freaked out and now he's got his ex living with him? Mother of his child or not, he shouldn't have her living with him if he's in a relationship with you. As long as he provides for his child, he doesn't owe her anything else. I'd think seriously about ending this. You guys aren't compatible. You're young. You want kids. He doesn't. I guarantee if you stay with him, in 20 years time you will regret that you didn't have kids and end up resenting him. If by any chance, you end up getting pregnant again and have the child, he may end up resenting you and or that child.

I don't have a problem with the age gap - my own son's last girl friend was nineteen and he was 35. However, at nineteen you have yet to get to know your adult self, so please don't think about having children with anyone for at least two or three years.

People fall madly in love, thinking it will last forever and is enough for a long relationship. However, it’s very hard to live on an emotional high for very long. Eventually we start to come down from the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, typically after around 18 months to three years (people vary of course). If couples are friends, discuss their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in some depth (obviously there will be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can develop into a long and wonderful relationship. If one party feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partnership. It's easy to behave at our best when in love, but marriage, for example, requires a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility. If a strong friendship is not in place, the relationship will probably peter out eventually - or worse.

Quite often we fall in love because we are lonely and allow ourselves to be won over by anyone who takes an interest in us. Thus we give away control to somebody else if we are not careful. This is another reason for taking things very slowly, and really getting to know someone before committing ourselves or getting too emotionally or sexually involved.

Teenage & (early) 20s marriages are so very often disastrous in the longer term: it's very hard to get to know and understand others until we get to know ourselves, our own needs, etc. which are still fluctuating a bit until we are "mature" (often, but not always, of course, women in later 20s, men mid 30s). This is a very good reason for avoiding the emotionally bonding sexual intercourse, as it can so often lead to serious psychological and emotional confusion unless in a deeply loving, mature and well established relationship.

Good Luck

Number one , he didn't want a child he lied , he clearly only said that to make you happy. Two he shouldn't be living with his children's mother , if he cared but wasn't involved with her he would give her money not live in the same house. Also saying that he doesn't wana talk to you as much because he doesn't wana fight with her means they are still intimate. You need to realize you are 19 and have your life ahead of you . He already has children a house a career and baggage. You need to focus on college or a career and wait on having children. You need to leave him . I know it may be tough but honestly in your case you are way better being with someone closer in age . Trust me. The failed pregnancy happened for a reason god wanted you to see he wasn't who you thought he was and being that you miscarried it's your chance to move on without any attachments. Think very hard, he is not in it for the right reasons. Keep

Your head up you seem like a good person

my advice is you have plenty of years ahead of you. you are free and worry free don't take some of his problems and put them on your back leave him and find a man that will care for you and love you like no other trust me there is that one person for us out there and from the hear of this story he isnt the one be patient because the patient fisher always gets the fish.

let me tell you a personal story i thot i got a girl pregnant for a while and im pretty young 16 to be exact and i thot i got her pregnant and i was worried sick because i really didn't like her but i made it seem like i did and when she told me she thot she was pregnant i started to act like you 32 year old boyfriend i didnt want the baby because i just wanted the good stuff not the baby. my advice once again is that you have been given plenty of signs to leave him and if your doubtful of his love leave him and leave him quick.