My ex says he loves me but ignores all text and calls and then says he wants to spend christmas eve with me?

he is 37 i am 47 we have been together for 13 years and he says that i dont consider his feelings or needs. Well we lost our home in august of 2013 due to him out of work and me being out on work injury. So we had to move and since we where just living together we could not stay with my mom together so he said you go i have some where to go until we get it back together meaning our finances. Well he was lieing he had no where to be but did not say that when i asked him. Now he says i betrayed him by leaving him there in the streets to fend for himself and survive alone i did not do that i was so under the impression that he had a place to be because that is what he told me. He says he still loves me and wants us but things have to change but we have to work on them and it will not happen over night. Well i dont know what he wants. he will not talk to me and he ignores all my calls and text. He avoids seeing me but then he tells me he wants to be with me for christmas eve dinner with my family how do i take this. ?